The Debate



Ok, this is just getting creepy now!!

Last night Eric and I went on our first Brick workout and look what we came across…

Harold’s brother!


Why have I not noticed these before?! Is my town just really creepy or something? lol.

We went on a beautiful 5 mile sunset bike ride! Half on the roads and half on the trails.


My partner in crime…


It was a great first leg of the workout!

  • Distance: 4.98 miles
  • Time: 35:27 mins
  • Avg speed: 8.4 mph
  • Max Speed: 15.9 mph
  • Ascent (total climb): 380 feet

Eric pointed out a very hardcore looking grease mark on my leg when we were finished.


Just a battle wound… ;)

And then the unthinkable happened…

I got my man to run!!!!!!

Doesn’t his face scream thrilled? :mrgreen:


Let me put this into context for you a little so you can understand my excitement for him to be running.

Eric has told me numerous times that he will NEVER RUN and he will never start running with me. I think in the 10 years we have been together we have been on 2 runs together total (and I’m not quite sure how those 2 runs ever happened, I think I dreamed them up…) I used to beg him to go running with me and I think that pushed him away even more.

I said to Eric at the beginning of this run- ‘You call the shots. If you want to stop, just let me know.’

We started running, and get this, he blew me out of the water! (err…off the road?)

I had such a hard time keeping up with him! Remember- his long, gazelle-like legs (he is 6 foot 2!) Well, those gazelle legs are fast let me tell you. He had to slow down for ME! It was a hoot!

He was like, ‘Wow I feel like I have to take such short strides.’ Normally a piece of me would have died inside with that comment, but I put my ego aside because I was just so thrilled that he was running beside me. ;)

He ran 2.5 k/1.55 m virtually effortlessly. We clocked in at 14:29 minutes. I said, ‘Wow I think I am more out of breath than you are.’ And he said, ‘Bigger lungs’ :mrgreen: Not only is he a natural, but he’s also modest!

The run:

Distance: 2.5k/1.55 miles

Time: 14:29 mins

Pace: 9:21 min/mile

Ascent: 189 feet

My motto is to kill em with kindness. I think one of the keys to encouraging people to workout is to flood them with praise and compliments. By the end of the run, I think Eric was feeling really proud and he maybe started to realize that he can do this…try-a-tri after all?

The Try-a-tri debate:

Now we are also having a little debate about our try-a-tri!

I have told Eric from the beginning that I want to do the try-a-tri by his side the entire event. I want to swim beside him, I want to bike with him, and I want to hold his hand crossing the finish line (I’m a sap like that).

However, my husband wants me to ‘go on ahead’ and do my absolute best, even if this means leaving him behind along the way. He doesn’t want to hold me back, he said.

We are having this little debate! I still would like to be by his side. I think it would make the experience more special, and to be quite honest, I don’t think he will be holding me back at all! I think he is capable of much more than he gives himself credit for, and if anything, I might have a hard time keeping up with him!

My questions to you tonight- What would you do in our situation? Have you ever trained for and competed in a race with a friend, family member, or significant other? Did you stick together or part ways?


Ta-ta mes amies! :) Going to get back to work. Eric and I are off for a late-night swim at 9pm tonight…hopefully I can sleep! See you for a late-night post…might be a 1,000 words, not sure yet. :)

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1 caitlin May 5, 2010

I’ve written about running with friends before, but I think you should do the tri alone. You will probably have separate starts for the swim (men and women) and it will be cumbersome to catch up to him in transition….


2 Nancy May 5, 2010

The tri that she’s doing, my boyfriend actually does. It’s done by age group! :)


3 Nancy May 5, 2010

Now I’m questioning myself after writing that comment. I just asked the Boyf what he remembered for that race and he says: ” they always start in waves for the most part…I can’t remember if they differentiate male and female when they assign waves or not – they may”

We’ll see in June I guess!! :)


4 Julie @savvyeats May 5, 2010

Maybe you need to do 2 try-a-tris… one alone, one together! :)


5 Brittany May 5, 2010

I’ve done it both ways, but I think that sometimes it’s more special and meaningful if you stick together the whole way – especially if that’s what you had planned initially.


6 Brittany May 5, 2010

Although, I was only talking about running races. Caitlin brings up a good point- you might not be able to stick together in a Tri as well as you would be able to in a running race.


7 Jenny May 5, 2010

LOL, i love that tree! If it were up ot me, I’d do the tri alone because then you can work off your own speeds & such!


8 Lori May 5, 2010

it is hard on the swim to stick together


9 Steph May 5, 2010

I raced with friends last year and we all ran our own race. My boyfriend trained with me but he chose to do a longer distance. You’re still going through the experience together but I’d honestly say to go at your pace. It’s fun when you see each other (pass each other??) on the course. It’s going to be really hard to keep track of one another in the water, trust me. And when you’re biking you have to be careful that you’re not in the drafting zone so you can’t be side-by-side or too close in front or behind anyways. You’ll still enjoy it just as much even if you aren’t hand-in-hand!

Caitlin is also right about the start; there is normally a staggered start for men, women and the various age brackets so you probably won’t begin the race together anyways.


10 Nancy May 5, 2010

I’m the same as you! I want to run a race, or do a du and have my boyfriend by my side. But he can’t do any races leisurely, which causes me not to do any – at all! It makes me sad :(


11 Keri@kerirunsslow May 5, 2010

My fiance and I run the same races, but he is a lot faster than me… he’s 6’2 also! We never run the race together, but he’s always waiting for me right by the finish to cheer me on the last 100 yards, which is really nice! Honestly, it would never even occur to me to run the race with him… we train together, but the point of a race is for me to do the best I can, and since my best is different than his best, we don’t run together during the race.


12 Nikki T May 5, 2010

In March I signed up for my first 10km race with my Mom-In-Law. We’ve been running together for about a year now and generally she is a bit faster than me (I like to think it’s her longer legs and maybe bigger lungs??!), however on this particular day she wasn’t feelin’ it as usual…I fully expected that she’d have to slow down or walk during the 10k to stick with me, but it ended up being the opposite. I didn’t go on ahead when she told me to though…it was our first 10km race and we were in it together!!
I’m not sure if I would have come in with a better time if I would have gone ahead, but I figured…there’s always next time! (We both PR’ed anyway, since it was our first race of this distance!)

Tough decision!!
Whatever you decide, I’m sure you will have a blast and be so proud of each other in the end!


13 Megan@EatScrapRun May 5, 2010

My husband and I do a lot of running races and triathlons together, and we always go at our own pace. It’s still nice to know you are at the race together, and to see each other after the race, even if you didn’t actually complete the whole event together.


14 Mary May 5, 2010

I just ran a half marathon with my boyfriend. We trained together and we ran and held hands crossing the finish line. He’s definitely by far faster than me and in better shape than I am but I was just so thrilled to be popping his half marathon cherry (it was his first and my third) that I didn’t care and set my ego aside for a while. There was one point in which we separated because he had to go to the bathroom that was it though. :)


15 Katie@ Two Lives, One Lifestyle May 5, 2010

Mu uncle makes little faces just like that to put on trees in the woods by the family cabin… but I don’t think he’s been in Canada anytime recently! You guys are totally rocking the training :D!!


16 Grace aka Triathlonbabe May 5, 2010

Way to go on getting Eric to show his stuff! My DH on the other hand says, “He caved…I won’t”….LOL! Men…

In running, yes, you can stick together and yes, I have stuck with a friend through and through till the end. In fact, at my last half marathon last Nov., one of my most unmemorable races because I was on the verge of major surgery in Dec. and was in a lot of pain but still did the race. One of my bestest buds stuck with me the entire 13.1 miles, even though she normally blows me out of the water and we usually meet at the end.

As for a triathlon, I have to say from experience, it is quite hard to keep up with another person. I tried with a friend of mine, that I was motivating her through her first tri. I ended having to go ahead and met her at the end. Here’s the deal, you or Eric might be faster than the other in one of the disciplines, especially in swimming and yes, normally you will be put in a different wave in the swim, unless the waves go by times only and then you can put yourselves in the same time wave category and swim side by side. And technically, the swim is where the issue might be more so than the bike and the run. Some races put the waves in gender categories along with times. Like both of my open water races were gender categorized and by times within the gender. I was glad too, not to scare you, because in my first open water, even though the men came after us, I still got barrelled over by a large man and literally shoved under water. Eeek!


17 Jessica @ How Sweet May 5, 2010

I vote for doing it at your own pace – which means most likely alone, tho it could be great if you stayed together!


18 Sarah for Real May 5, 2010

I think that you should use the same strategy you mentioned with the running and “let him call the shots.” Meaning, do it separately.

It’s his first event so whatever takes the pressure off. Save your “sappy hand-holding” until he gets his “sea legs” and you do another event. Lol, I love that btw, too cute!


19 Abby May 5, 2010

Seems like this has been said already, but it might make sense for you guys to start together and see how it goes. The swim start can be really chaotic, making it hard to stick with a partner. So, if you get out of the water and you’re still together, I say go for it – but have it in your mind that you will be doing the race separately, just in case.


20 Julie @ Peanut Butter Fingers May 5, 2010

it’s totally your call… but i just have to say that crossing the finish line at my first half marathon w/ my boyfriend by my side (who could have easily run faster) meant the world to me. :)


21 Anne May 5, 2010

When i’m feeling inferior to someone (ability wise) the last thing i want to do is hold them back. even if im not really going to be or if they dont see it that way. it can take away from the experience if i’m thinking about that rather than what i’m doing. its a personality thing though. when im doing it or having those thoughts, i know i’m being silly, but still, i can’t shake it. id rather the person just do their their thing and celebrate with me at the end. that’s the competative spirit in me though:)

have fun either way! i love reading the updates!


22 Michelle May 5, 2010

i agree with this too! I hate feeling like the other person is being held back even if they say they don’t care.

however I know that when my (much faster) husband runs with me I am way more motivated, and run faster too!

You will have fun either way :)


23 Tami May 5, 2010

do your own thing.


24 Kelly B May 5, 2010

My boyfriend has been running races for years and convinced me to run a 5k with him this year. It was my first race ever and he stuck by me the whole time, even though he is so much faster than me. He kept me motivated, and even ran with me on his back for a bit when I rolled my ankle (that’s how our photo was taken!) and we crossed the finish holding hands. Since it’s your first tri I can see how you’d want to stay with him, but it seems like it might be hard…maybe after the tri you can convince him to do a 5k with you…?


25 Meg @ Be Fit Be Full May 5, 2010

My husband and I did our first Sprint Tri together last summer and I began the swimming portion (in a pool) a few minutes before him. But he is not a very good swimmer (I swam for 10 years), so I was ahead of him the whole time until the last mile in our run. Once he caught me I told him to go on ahead, and he sad “no, let’s finish together!” Sweet, huh?
Well get this – another guy our age came running past us a few yards from the finish line and my husband’s competitiveness got the best of him and he took off without me! HA! I forgave him though :)


26 Rachel @ Suburban Yogini May 5, 2010

Ha ha ha! Eric reminds me of my brother. Once when I was training for a 10k my brother decided to come on a run with me. He never runs. He barely moves to be honest. He just stays enviably thin on a diet of chips.

He blew me off the running track. Ran 7k wihout raising a sweat or stopping talking and then lit a cigarette. I kid you not.

I think it’s true that boys do have much bigger lungs.


27 Kirsten May 5, 2010

I think you should each do your own race. When my boyfriend and I ran a half marathon together we ran side by side for around half of it, but in the last half we each ran our own race.

If you do decide to do it together then I think you should make a pact/decision about what you would do if one of you has to rest, etc.

Just my thought!


28 Chelsea May 5, 2010

My boyfriend and I signed up to do a half-marathon on May 22nd. It will be my first race ever (he used be a sprinter in high school), and our first race together. It looked like everything was going well (we kept the same pace on training runs), and then bam! I got injured. Luckily, the doctor says my injuries are not enough to keep me from running (or from running my half-marathon in a couple weeks), but they are enough that he is telling me to cut down on training for the next couple weeks, and to not run when it is painful. Now I don’t know what to do! I don’t want to hold my boyfriend back (because I am sure I will be running a lot slower than planned in my half-marathon), but I want to finish our first race together. So we’ll see what happens…


29 Kristy May 5, 2010

Are these tears in my eyes?


30 Therese May 5, 2010

OMG! I would DIE if my boyfriend started running! He ran with me once and has never even given the slightest indication of EVER running again. I don’t press it but I would LOVE it!

I say, if you can actually do it with him (I’ve never done a tri so I don’t know how they work), go for it. It’s the first time out and something you guys will remember forever. My best friend ran her first marathon with her boyfriend, they ran together (it was his 11th) and the finished hand in hand and I know it was a very special race for the both of them.


31 Gina May 5, 2010

My husband is in the Army so he runs a lot, and one of the debates is always that the female PT standards aren’t the same as male…and that if you are going into combat, women should be able to do everything that men can do. Fair enough, yes, but my argument is always that women tend to be shorter and have shorter legs!! Anyway, I’m used to him running faster than me. In response to whether you should “go on ahead” or stay together, I can tell you what my husband has done. While I work out a lot, I’m just not in quite as good shape as him since my job doesn’t require working out constantly (he usually does twice a day). Anyway, we have done a lot of races and fun runs together, and he ALWAYS runs with me. With the exception of one race, he has done every single one with me, and we’ve probably done at least 20.


32 elizabeth May 5, 2010

Usually triathlons are grouped by sex and age. The swim starts in waves and there can be a 30 minute or so difference between the first and last wave. The person finishing the swim first would not want to wait for the other at transition. That would be detrimental to your overall time.


33 kate May 5, 2010

Im training for a tri with a friend, but I think the day of well have the attitude that if we need to part ways we will. Its so important for me to have a buddy while Im training though!


34 Sarah May 5, 2010

My husband and I did a 10k together and it was so much FUN to have him right next to me the whole time. We had planned on walking and due to some crazy things we ended up running most of it…so no training (and therefore, we also weren’t worried about our times)!!! Anyway, it was really motivating to have him with me for the first one. If we did a second 10k that we’d actually trained for, we’d probably do it separately to achieve our own goal times. But that first race was all about finishing so it was fun to do it together. I felt like we had a shared experience rather than 2 separate ones. If you’re the faster person & he could use some encouragement along the way (or if you just think it would be fun!), I think you’d have a blast doing it togeether.


35 Amanda May 5, 2010

I absolutely agree that compliments and praise (without overdoing it) are great motivation. When running with my boyfriend I’d say things like “You look great” or “Your form is really improving”, and when we finish I always give him a little pat on the butt :)

My boyfriend and I trained for the 10 mile run that we did last weekend together. It was great bc we didn’t wear ipods and it was time to be together! For the race we decided to stick together, and said we’d figure it out if someone had to stop for the bathroom or something … we are really the same pace. Staying together allowed us to each push each other when we’d get surges of energy and to be motivating! I’ve never done a tri, but it seems like it could be tough with all the transitioning…


36 Jil May 5, 2010

Aww glad you had a good run together!!


37 Tina May 5, 2010

How great to enjoy a run together. I love when I have the chance to workout with my husband. There is something special about it. Which is why I completely understand your point of view on the try-a-tri. I would also want to complete the first one together. Then if I enjoy it, work towards improving later on.


38 Monica May 5, 2010

I do not think that it matters whether you are there side by side or not. In the end, you are still in the same race and will have the same goal in mind. Besides, he may not be side by side with you, but he is still doing this race with you. << hope this makes sense.

Whoever finishes first will always be at the finish line cheering the other one on.

Congrats doing this together. I would have to drag my boyfriend to do this. Good luck!!


39 Kristin May 5, 2010

My husband and I never run together. He’s a long-time runner who’s a lot taller than I, and is just too fast for me!


40 Heather (Heather's Dish) May 5, 2010

i’ve never done a race or anything like that with a friend/family member, but i would just do it for fun and stick with them regardless :)


41 JL May 5, 2010

I say you each have your own race and save your sappy moment when you meet up after you’ve both finished. :)


42 Rachel May 5, 2010

I have a hard time working out with my significant other. I am thrilled whenever he does join me because I know all the benefits of exercise, but I have a really hard time putting my ego away, like you talked about.

I work out CONSTANTLY. At least 3-4 times a week every single week. I do different workouts and I push myself really hard.

On the random times my boyfriend does come work out with me, he can always run farther, lift heavier weights, and just about do EVERYTHING better than me.

It drives me nuts! I feel like I work so hard to maintain an active lifestyle in a town/society that makes it extremely difficult, and he can just get out there randomly and is in better shape than I am.

Arg! Ha thanks for letting me vent.

I obviously need to put the ego AWAY, and I try very hard not to let him see me get upset when he does so well I always tell him that I am proud of him and excited to be sharing the experience together.


43 Diana @ frontyardfoodie May 5, 2010

Aww! This is sweet.

Okay, first of all, when I do races with my friends I don’t hold back and I don’t expect them too. However, if my hubby agreed to do something like this with me you better believe I’d stick next to him the entire time. Not only would it be awesome to cross the finish line with him but it would be so much fun!

Not like that’s ever going to happen but a girl can hope:)


44 Sonja {Active Foodie} May 5, 2010

That’s a great question! Dave and I are doing our first tri together this June and I haven’t decided how I want to finish! I think we will end up racing separately since we are better at different things – and hopefully we can still finish together! :)


45 Stacey May 5, 2010

I see both sides of the debate. Doing it and finishing together is great for hte marriage. But finishing doining the best you can would also be good for you and make him really proud of you.


46 Jaya May 5, 2010

That’s definitely a debate-worthy conversation! I will say this – it might be too early to make that decision since (and take this in a gender-equality and completely charitable spirit) it is always possible that by triathlon time, Eric might be excelling in biking or swimming. The thing about a tri is that everyone has a different strength, so even though you might plan to race on your own, you could end up meeting up at some point of one of you has a better swim vs. bike vs. run. My partner and I have raced both, together and apart. We usually make the call on the spot, depending on how things are going. Interesting comments!


47 Lisa May 5, 2010

My BF and are riding Reach the Beach in 10 days. He’s doing the first 50 miles solo, then meeting me at the 55 mile start and we’re going to ride the rest of the route together (another 50 miles). We’ve been training together for it. It has brought us closer I think. I have enjoyed all the training time together too. We haven’t discussed yet what to do if one person is too slow. Guess what we’ll be talking about tonight? :)


48 Claudia May 5, 2010

Good question! I don’t have too much experience – only tried one race (running a half) with my husband. He is a much faster runner than me though, so he was up ahead. Just knowing he was doing it with me though was a big encouragement!

We’re doing our first try-a-tri here in Ottawa in a few weeks, and we haven’t actually thought about how we would do it – I will bring up your idea to do it together! Even though he’s a faster runner, we are more even in the swimming and biking. But I think it comes down to pace – if you are both fairly similar, I would definately try to do it together – if not, you can still get lots of satisfaction out of being part of the race together.

On a related note, for the tri that I’m doing, I got this link in an email today, and thought I’d share:

Happy training!


49 Nasim May 5, 2010

I’m a race whore! I love running races…mainly running as well as some triathlons. I’ve done races where I’ve tried to acheive a personal best and I’ve done races where I’ve paced a friend along. If you are doing this triathlon for the experience of it then I think you should do it alongside your hubby…it will make it more memorable. You can encourage one another which help a lot! Also, you will have other opportunites to do races on your own.
But if you are doing to acheive a certain time or see how well you can do…then do it on your own. You can cheer him on at the finish line!


50 Michelle May 5, 2010

Hmmm… maybe tell him to be honest with you during the race and to keep quiet if he wants you with him, or tell you to go ahead if he would feel more comfortable? Originally I was thinking I would stay with my husband if he ever did any kind of race (he’s not into this kind of activity :( ). But then I thought about when I run with my cousin, who is a lot faster than me. We always start together, and I help pace her from going out too fast and she pushes me to go a little faster. When I decide I would be more comfortable/less embarrassed running slower and alone, I tell her to go ahead without me. It works for us, but I would ask Eric what he wants! :) I’m so excited for you guys, it looks like you’re having so much fun training together!


51 Michelle @ Give Me the Almond Butter May 5, 2010

I did a 5K with my guy friend who has never ran more than a mile in his life. Once the race began I just saw the back of his shirt disappear into the horizon line. :(


52 kim May 5, 2010

I don’t think this will work for a triathlon. Every open swim tri I’ve ever seen/done had waves for the start. Women and men, even of the same age group, are not in the same wave. There could be 5 minutes or 60 minutes between your starts. I think you should go in planning to do it alone.


53 Katalina May 5, 2010

Dear Angela,

this is an interesting debate, but I think you have the answer inside of you, yes you do, you have to decide and understand why you want to do it: 1. For fun and let say love, to be near your husband in his first experience with such kind of events! or 2. for adrenaline, which means that you have to go at your best! :) so what I can say?! there will a lot of races in your future, but if I were you, I will benefit and live at full the moment, when I will take my husband hand at the finish line!!!


54 Jill Will Run May 5, 2010

I think that it’s always good to have a mutual understanding that one person can finish before the other if needed.

I trained to do a marathon with my mom. (We followed the same training plan, even though we lived in different states.) Then on race day she could tell I was ready to move ahead of her and she told me to go ahead and she’d see me at the finish line. And now that’s one of our favorite things in races, cheering each other on as we each do our best we can.


55 Lisa (bakebikeblog) May 5, 2010

Mr BBB and I competed in one triathlon together. As the men started in a swim wave before the females, we werent able to swim together. But we had racked our bikes next to each other in transition and I caught up with him there. He beat me on the bike leg, but I caught him on the run leg. We were able to run together for about half the run, then he waved me on ahead :) So we kind of had the best of bothe worlds :)


56 The Linz May 5, 2010

I love the idea of you both running it together the first time. I can understand the whole not wanting to hold him back or him hold you back thing, but maybe the first time you can do this together. And then do your second one for yourself.

I am training for my first marathon with my best friend and we are at different levels of training but I can’t imagine doing the first one by myself. We will need to motivate eachother when it gets tough. And since this is my first I am looking at it as more of a trial run. My second (if I decide to do another) would be my time to try and beat my first one on time.


57 Camille May 5, 2010

I finally got my boyfriend to agree to do a 5k with me!
So excited!


58 Andrea May 5, 2010

My partner Zac and I run our longer races together–1/2 marathons and marathons. The shorter races, we go at our own pace (he’s much faster than I am) but for the longer distances, it’s nice to have a buddy with whom to chat.


59 Amy @ Everything is Homemade May 5, 2010

I am a runner and my husband is not. But last fall I convinced him to do a half-marathon. We did all our training together for 14 weeks. At the race we stuck together the entire time even though I’m faster than he is and could’ve gone ahead. I was so thrilled that he agreed to do the run that I wanted to be by his side when he finished. It was really fun to encourage each other the whole time and we finished really strong.

Since then we’ve done some 5k’s and 10k’s and we ran them separately. But I thought that first time running together was really special.


60 Sammy May 5, 2010

I think you have to do what is in your heart. I first started running when I got inspired by my best friend, who just completed her first half marathon. Every time we run together, she runs right alongside me and lets me set the pace. If I walk, she walks. If she knows I’m not pushing myself hard enough, she grabs my hand and pulls me along. Sometimes I feel like I hold her back, but she is always huffing and puffing, too, or at least pretending to. :) She ran my first 5k with me even though she was really sick and crossed the finish line by my side. She is a tremendously supportive friend and I don’t know if I would still be running if it weren’t for her. That being said, we are going to run a half together in September, but I am going to definitely encourage her to run her own race– I think she needs to do that for her, considering my main goal is just to finish! Since you are the racer in your house, it’s up to you and I’m sure he will understand either way, but if you want to stay with your husband during the race, I know from experience how much he will love you for it. :)


61 Nicole @ Making Good Choices May 5, 2010

This is so funny to me! When my husband and I first started dating 7 years ago he was the SAME way…he would go on walks with me but NEVER ever run. Finally I broke him down 2 years ago and now he goes with me on the weekends and even sometimes during the week. I am the same way with races, I would rather cross it next to him, which is kind of why I haven’t done a half marathon, I don’t want to do it myself. I say do it together I agree with you totally! :)


62 Allison @ Food For Healing May 5, 2010

being your first Tri ever, in my opinion, i would stick together the whole time. If you were ever to do another one then i think that would be the time to where it’d be okay to split up. The first one i think would be the hardest, since you’re so new to it, it would be nice to have the support and motivation right beside you the entire time. Thats what I think!


63 Carla in Sydney May 5, 2010

My boyfriend and I always go in fun runs/half marathons together but run completely seperately. He is much faster than I am so it wouldn’t be fair to either of us if we stuck together – Either I would feel really puffed out and struggling or he would not be working to his full potential. In all honesty, I couldn’t keep up with him if my life depended on it anyway! ;-) We still get to hang out together after the events and talk about the course, etc which is really cool. I also like that he waits at the finish line (most times) to cheer me across the line.


64 Lily @ Lily's Health Pad May 5, 2010

I always have to twist Stephen’s leg to get him out the door to run with me. But once he’s out there, he smokes me! Every time.


65 Marilyn @ Lipgloss and Spandex May 5, 2010

That’s really cool that Eric ran with you! :)

My first race was the only race that I finished with someone, and my best friend was kind enough to walk with me since it was my first half marathon and I hadn’t trained at all. I’m really lucky to run with a group of gals who are really easy going. We carpool over together, then find our spots according to pace and just see each other at the finish line. And we go out for drinks and lunch afterwards, so we still get to enjoy each others’ company :)


66 Meg May 5, 2010

Thanks for posting the link to my overnight oats!

With regards to your little debate…I’ve only done one race with my dad before, it was a 10km and we stuck together the whole way. It was my first race ever and I liked how my dad stuck with me the whole time, it made me feel more comfortable. Even though I didn’t care if he went ahead, it was nice that he decided to stick with me. If I were in your shoes, I would stick with your husband the whole time, as it’s both your first time and doing it together and being able to motivate one another would be pretty awesome!


67 Lizzie May 5, 2010

My husband and I have run some races together. He’s a former x-country runner getting back into it, so I know I’m in for some competition, but I find it’s fun no matter who gets ahead – the best part is afterwards when we get to relax, enjoy post-race festivities. However I do remember when he first got me into running on the track near his apartment – I got my butt kicked!! :)


68 Lizz @ leadingthegoodlife May 5, 2010

Thanks for your comment about setting your ego aside to support someone else…I really needed that tonight!!


69 Morgan @ Healthy Happy Place May 5, 2010

I have been trying for years to get my fiance to exercise…even if it’s not with me!! I really haven’t had much luck at all. Maybe if I stop nagging him, he’ll do it. Considering I’m a personal trainer, I wish he’d hop on the fitness bandwagon!!


70 sarah May 5, 2010

I would opt for the together option, all the way! First, it would be way more significant in terms of “we did this together” if you actually did it together. Second, competition isn’t everything. The more important part of this is that you are both doing something new, together, and you are bonding over it. Third, would you really kick yourself if you went a little slower just to stay with him? (and hey, he is a natural, perhaps he could beat you! ;-) To me, the point of a short triathlon like this is to see how you like the EVENT, not to see if you can beat everyone around you. You’ll probably finish in the middle of the pack, and have a blast doing it!


71 Amber K May 5, 2010

My husband and I have a hard time running with one another. He has to take very short strides while I try to elongate mine to try to keep up! It probably has something to do with the fact that I am 5’4” barely and he is 6’8”


72 Jolene May 5, 2010

I just told 2 people today that my motto is “kill em with kindness” … but it was regarding something different :-)

Good motto!

I say you each do your best, that way you can be there to cheer him on as he runs through the finish line which I think is even better than crossing it with him.


73 Wei-Wei May 5, 2010

I actually think you should do it apart. I mean, it’s your first triathlon and I understand if you’d want to do it together, but you might want to think about how it might affect your results… If you continue and do more triathlons in the future you’d want to look back and see your progress!

Hahaha I’m so jealous of natural runners. :P Have fun at your swim! :)



74 Becky May 6, 2010

Interesting debate. My boyfriend and I ran our first 1/2 marathon last weekend. I’ve been running much longer than him and he pushed me to go ahead without him. We decided that before race day and it was the right decision for us. We were both able to meet our goals and feel great about the race without any guilt or regret. Have fun!


75 Paige (Two Runners And A Brown Dog) May 6, 2010

I can see it from your husband’s point of view. I really like to run/race by myself, because the feeling that I might hold the other person back causes a lot of stress and anxiety. It is much more enjoyable (for the less experienced or slower person) when we can just stick to our own pace and not have to worry about keeping up with anyone else.


76 Sophie @ yumventures May 6, 2010

I think its good to set a goal ahead of time. You can train together and then both try to do your best, or make it a team effort and stick together. One person will have to slow down a bit, but thats ok if you plan for it ahead of time! Its so great you guys are training together, either way!


77 Mary @ What's Cookin' with Mary May 6, 2010

Ihad a similar experience… I had been riding my bike for about a year when my husband decided he wanted to start riding with me. I was riding 5 days a week and felt like I was in pretty good shape… his first day out, it was all i could do to try and keep up with him! I had to ask him to slow down. ;P


78 Jane May 6, 2010

Don’t tell your hubby this but I decided to do a triathelon this summer Aug 29….I fiqured if your husband could do so could I. :)


79 Mo May 6, 2010

This question is perfectly timed as I am in this type of situation right now.
My husband has joined me in races and that means that I have to slow my pace and walk quite frequently. I signed up for a 1/2 in the Fall and thought that he would not want to participate… well, he does. So that means that I will not get to make it what I had intended, an adventure in athleticism for myself. Instead, it will be us doing something together. I have mixed feelings about this as it was a goal that I had for myself. So I think that I will have to pick races and tell him that I am doing this one alone, but then we can do this one together, etc, etc. I need to make a plan for this!

In my humble opinion, I think that you are correct that you should stay with Eric and hold hands as you cross the finish line. Imagine yourself in 20 years looking back….. which finish will bring you more joy? That tells you what you should do.


80 Susan May 7, 2010

Okay, so my first reaction was to do it together, hold hands, and all that other sappy crap :P But after reading through the comments, I think I’ve changed my mind! It’s one thing to run or bike a race together, but triathlons are a different animal. You’ve got to get through three different sports and two transitions. That’s a lot of opportunities to have to wait, or get messed up. I now say do your own thing. I think training together is more important than finishing together anyways :)


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