I will never forget the day that I was interviewing for a summer position at a local YMCA.
The two girls who were interviewing me were ‘camp leaders’, maybe a few years older than I was. I don’t know why, but I instantly got a bad vibe from them; they were harshly looking me up and down and judging me from the first moment I walked into the room. ‘Nice highlights’, one of them quipped with a smirk.
I tried to ignore my bad gut feeling and just give the best interview that I could.
One of the many interview questions they asked me was, ‘Who is a role model to you?’
I said, Oprah was one of my biggest role models.
The two girls proceeded to burst out laughing, trying desperately to stifle their laughter like a group of 14 year old girls would do in high school.
‘OPRAH!?’, one of them mocked, rolling her eyes.
Yup, they were ‘mean girls’, just as my gut had told me.
I was not only embarrassed by their unprofessional response, but I was angry. I wanted to stand up and walk out of the interview, not looking back. Instead, I carried on with the interview trying to ignore their cattiness, just waiting for it to be over.
A few days later, I got a call offering me a YMCA position. I quickly turned it down with satisfaction.
While I don’t regret turning down the position (I eventually found another summer job working for great people), I regret not sticking up for myself in the interview. I was quite young- only about 18 at the time- and I felt intimidated by the interview environment and the older girls, not feeling like I had the option of calling them out for their rude behaviour.
Only later did I realize that I always have the option to stand up for what I believe in, I just didn’t know it at the time.
Oprah has remained a role model in my life, regardless of whether that is ‘cool’ or not. Oprah’s last show was everything I could have asked for and more. Did you catch it? I loved that it wasn’t about a huge giveaway or ‘things’, but simply the life lessons that Oprah has learned over the past 25 years. The theme of the show was to remind us all of the power we have to change our own lives. I don’t think she could have gone out with a bigger bang.
On our real ‘job’ in life:
"What I knew for sure from this experience with you is that we are all called. Everybody has a calling, and your real job in life is to figure out what that is and get about the business of doing it. Every time we have seen a person on this stage who is a success in their life, they spoke of the job, and they spoke of the juice that they receive from doing what they knew they were meant to be doing. We saw it in the volunteers who rocked abandoned babies in Atlanta. We saw it with those lovely pie ladies from Cape Cod making those delicious potpies. … We saw it every time Tina Turner, Celine, Bocelli or Lady Gaga lit up the stage with their passion. Because that is what a calling is. It lights you up and it lets you know that you are exactly where you’re supposed to be, doing exactly what you’re supposed to be doing. And that is what I want for all of you and hope that you will take from this show. To live from the heart of yourself. You have to make a living; I understand that. But you also have to know what sparks the light in you so that you, in your own way, can illuminate the world." ~Oprah
A universal desire:
"I’ve talked to nearly 30,000 people on this show, and all 30,000 had one thing in common: They all wanted validation. If I could reach through this television and sit on your sofa or sit on a stool in your kitchen right now, I would tell you that every single person you will ever meet shares that common desire. They want to know: ‘Do you see me? Do you hear me? Does what I say mean anything to you?’ ~Oprah
Powerful stuff! You can read the full transcript and watch a video clip on the Oprah website.
Did you catch the final show? Is this Oprah’s final goodbye to television, or will she be back?
I wrote about Oprah today too and the ways in which she inspires me. I’m sad to see her go…she reminds me what it is like to achieve your dreams.
Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to watch the final show, but will catch in on line soon. I suspect she’ll be back on tv eventually. Well, I hope so anyway.
I really liked how she pointed out that this “passion” or “calling” doesn’t always have to be your job–it just happened to work out that way for her. I sometimes worry that I will take me a long time to find a job that I’m incredibly passionate about–but I do have a lot of hobbies and passions in my life that don’t pay the bills. I think as long as I keep finding ways to make time for them I’ll be OK.
I’ve had so many moments like that… Why is it that adolescent girls feel like they have something to be ashamed about? I know I wasn’t immune. Now I wonder how it would have turned out if I had grown a backbone right then and there and stood my ground. Oprah is truly an inspiration and business role model to all women. I loved her finale and her statement about finding one’s calling in life. So moving.
I haven’t really ever been an afternoon TV watcher unless at home sick or I heard that someone amazing was going to be on Oprah… but I did catch some of this show. I was reduced to tears at a few spots and think Oprah is an amazing woman and a role model for US ALL, men and women alike. Watch her continue to roar, I think we can count on it.
I didn’t watch Oprah, and I have never really been on the Oprah bandwagon, I don’t know why…I just never took the time lol
I think Oprah is an amazing woman and has lots of wonderful advice and wisdom to impart to us. She is also incredibly kind, generous, and forgiving so I could understand why you would give the answer you did in your interview. She’s definitely a great role model :)
I LOVE OPRAH! I will totally miss her show! I did watch her finale. Me and a glass of wine. It was so invigorating and calming at the same time! LOVED it!
I absolutely love these quotes. As I’m trying to determine the next step in my career, I’ve been asking friends and co-workers about how they found their passion, and how they have worked that into their careers.
I’ve received some great advice, but I’ve also been discouraged by how many people don’t believe it’s possible to find a truly fulfilling job that allows you to thrive socially, spiritually and financially. I’m hoping they’re wrong.
I watched the final episode, and it gave me chills. Oprah is an amazing woman. I always felt like her show nurtured me in some way…and it made me feel less guilty about watching tv! I’ll definitely miss her.
I didnt see it but i am hoping to find some way to watch it online, she is a powerful strong woman and the fact that she has made billions and still wants to inspire others is amazing!
Hi Angela! I love your blog for many reasons. I recently decided to go vegan and cut out refined foods. You’re blog was recommended to me, so I’m been spending some time looking on your website and your progress. I am about 50 lbs overweight and I’m really looking forward to having a better relationship with myself and the way I view food. I feel like you used to… happy on the outside, but struggling on the inside. Thanks for being an inspiration! :)
Thank you Ali! Goodluck with your journey :)
Oprah’s last show was everything I could have hoped for and more. It really touched me. She is a huge role model for me and I believe the greatest living teacher of love! I really enjoyed reading the quotes and what Oprah means to you :)
I’ll admit I’m not an Oprah fan. Those are powerful words and I’m glad I got to read them. Thank you for posting!
It really was a great show – I also really loved the part about being responsible for and conscious of the energy that you put out there.
yes that was a great part!
Oprah is amazing, it sounds like she ended things perfectly with a powerful message. I can’t wait to watch it!
Thanks for sharing. I think all women have been in similar situations and can relate. I am definitely sad that I missed the last episode of Oprah. Would have been nice to watch it live.
I recorded it on my DVR, and I began watching it before I even saw your post :). I’m sad that she’s leaving, but she’ll still be around..heck, she has her own network now!!
I don’t think I have seen even two of Oprah’s shows over the last twenty five years, but I heard a few bites of her final message and by searching found this site. I must say it would be hard not to be impressed with Oprah; her beginnings, her success, and how she seems to give back – an amazing model human being.
I haven’t seen it yet but I am planning on watching it!
And not related to this post, but Angela I made the “back on track” wheatberry salad a couple of weeks ago and just want to say thank you! It is so incredibly delicious, light, and filling at the same time and I’ve already made it twice since then :).