This post is coming straight from the heart!!!
So I am just going to write everything I am feeling right now. Bear with me!
Make Your Dreams Comes True…Yes, YOU!
Today ranked up there in the top 5 moments of my life.
I am so grateful for the support I have received with Glo Bakery, I can’t even begin to describe it.
I was so overcome with emotion when I saw how excited you were to be ordering my bars. I just kept wanting to pinch myself and truly savour this moment today. One which I will never forget. To have other people be excited, enthusiastic and supportive of my business, is only something I dreamed of early in 2009.
I thought, "Even though I have this vision that I want to do with all my heart, I just have so many doubts that I have what it takes to make it come to fruition."
My negative thoughts were indeed daunting at times and I would be lying if I still didn’t have them.
As I was furiously baking my heart out in the kitchen, lugging 50 pound bags of oats, cleaning, packaging, and trying not to let my head spin off, something occurred to me.
And you know what that was?
It occurred to me that if you keep the faith and work your butt off, you can do anything you want!
One of my favourite quotes says it all:
"The only place where dreams are impossible is in your own mind." ~Emalie
Just think about it for a moment. Had I not silenced those negative thoughts in my mind, I would never have had the courage to start up a business. You know where I would be? Stuck in my old job, miserably unhappy, saying to myself, ‘I just am not lucky with my career like some people are.‘ And oh yes, I said that to myself many times.
I am here to tell you that you don’t need to be stuck in a miserable job or pursuing a degree that makes you unhappy.
When I was in grad school, I felt it in my heart that it wasn’t the right place for me. I didn’t feel like I was being true to myself from day 1.
I had that little voice inside my head telling me that I would not be happy doing this for my career. I saw other students who lived and breathed the program and my heart just wasn’t in it like they seemed to be. And you know what? I felt extreme guilt over this. Why couldn’t I get into it like them? Why couldn’t I be as passionate about grad school as they seemed to be? Why couldn’t I sit in a lab for 14 hours a day and enjoy it?
The guilt doesn’t come from that voice inside of us. The guilt is what silences the voice!
Guilt tries to tell us that we are less of a person and that we are not worthy of being happy. It tries to tell us that something is wrong with us.
The guilt also largely comes from the expectations that we think others have of us. What society expects of us. What we think is expected of women in general. Whether those expectations that we feel are true or not, they only serve one purpose- to divert us from listening to our hearts.
Guilt is a distraction from finding our authentic selves.
I think so many of us women feel that we have to prove something. I know I did. I felt like I had to prove to everyone that I could get my degrees, make lots of money, and be successful. Well, none of that matters if it isn’t what you truly want to do in your heart!
No amount of success matters when you are unhappy. For me, it just added to my guilt. I co-authored on a book chapter straight out of grad school. Very exciting, right? Well, I couldn’t appreciate it because my heart wasn’t in it. I felt like I was regurgitating some unauthentic psychology babble instead of being able to speak from my heart. Yes, I may have written the book chapter, but I can’t truly say that I am proud of it in the full sense of the word.
I have received so many emails from many of you who feel stuck in your current situation.
I think the first step is taking a moment to reflect on the little voice inside of your head. It may be difficult at first because it has probably been silenced for a long time.
When I did this last year this is what I heard:
1) Help women love themselves and stop depriving themselves. Show them how to be healthy, to eat good foods, and to nurture their bodies and minds. Teach them what you have learned!
2) Start an online healthy bakery.
I think the this is a crucial first step that everyone should reflect on.
I want you to tell me what the voice inside you is telling you.
If you knew you could not fail, what would you do?
While the question seems simple, it is very telling.
If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader. ~John Quincy Adams
PS- More Glo Bar variety packs have been added!!