Lessons in Self-Love

by Angela (Oh She Glows) on April 21, 2011


I’m currently fighting a terrible sore throat and cold that crept up on me all week and hit me full force yesterday. My appetite is shot. My kitchen tools weep. I sound like Kermit the Frog. And the most I can manage to get down is banana soft serve, Green Monsters, and other cold liquids to soothe my throat. I’m also trying to gargle with salt water, but nothing seems to be helping that much!

Yesterday, I used my lack of mobility to get caught up on emails while planted at my desk with a blanket and Kleenex. Many of my emails are from readers who struggle with weight, self-acceptance, happiness, and eating disorders. I also receive emails from readers who are making positive changes in their lives such as career changes, finding love in fitness, or entering recovery for an eating disorder. Sometimes I am so inspired by these stories I want to hug the screen!

I thought I would take a moment to talk about lessons I have learned since I began my road to health. Many of these are ‘light bulb moments’ that stick with me and keep me on the right track in times of difficulty. I hope they will help you too!

Lessons in Self-Love

1. Self-love is a work in progress…there is no finish line!

For me, accepting myself can be hard work. I didn’t just wake up one day and exclaim that I loved everything about myself. I still don’t, but I work at it. It was a lot of work to build up my confidence after years of destroying it. I still have days when my confidence is shaky and I feel down about myself, but I feel like those days are much less frequent now. My goal is not to eliminate negative thoughts, but to reduce the frequency of those thoughts and to counter them with positive ones.

Negative thought –> ‘I wish my thighs were thinner.’

Counter thought –> ‘Those thighs helped you run a half marathon in 1 hour 55 minutes, so beat it!’

2. Not having a crutch can be scary…but positive coping mechanisms help

For most of my life whenever something stressful happened to me, I would rely on negative habits like starving myself to numb the pain or anxiety. I had to learn how to turn negative crutches into positive coping mechanisms. Instead of internalizing negativity, I now try to talk about it with a loved one or write my thoughts down. Sometimes all I need is a walk or run outdoors to change my mood around. It also helps if I see the stressor as just a bump in the road and that this too shall pass.


3. Food is not just about calories or fat grams.

I used to think food was the enemy because I was either over-eating or I was starving myself for punishment. Over the past few years, I have created a very good balance. I have not binged in probably 3 years, which I think is a record for me since it all began (for my 3 binge eating posts, see here). Instead of focusing on calories, I now focus on eating food that makes me feel great and I experiment with all kinds of healthy recipes. Over time, food and I became BFFs!


4. Eating a vegan diet gave me a greater purpose in my life.

Becoming a vegan allowed me to put my focus on something outside myself. I finally was able to get out of my own head and connect with something I believed in. While some people assume that a vegan diet would be restrictive, I have found that it has been very freeing and I’m a more compassionate person than I used to be.

5. Eating intuitively can take a long time to figure out.

One of the questions I get asked the most is how I stopped counting calories and learned to eat intuitively. When you tell your hunger signals NO, NO, NO for many years, it is very difficult to turn that around, but it is not impossible! I needed patience and determination when learning how to eat intuitively. When I first tried to stop counting calories, I still did it subconsciously for months and it was very hard to stop, but eventually I was able to stop 100%.  I never hear the rambling of calorie or exercise numbers in my head anymore and that is very freeing.

Listening to my hunger signals comes natural to me now and I am able to eat until satisfied and stop before becoming too full. I used to eat based on how many calories I had allotted, but if I listen to my hunger signals I can maintain my weight in a much more easy going manner.

6. I am responsible for my own happiness and no one else.

I used to play the victim role and I didn’t believe that I was in charge of my happiness. Ultimately, for a change to happen I had to take responsibility for my own happiness. No one was going to be able to help me if I was not ready to embrace change.

7. Weight fluctuations are normal.

Some days my pants feel loose, some days they feel a bit tight, and some days they feel just right. I don’t freak out about this anymore because as long as I stay committed to eating right and exercise it will balance out. I can usually tell if I am not eating great by how I feel and that is usually motivation to clean up my diet a bit. Nothing extreme. No deprivation. No freak outs. No negative self-talk. I’m in this for the long haul and I would take happiness and a healthy body any day over the alternative.


8. Create hobbies in your life.

I used to think that going to the gym each day was a hobby. In job interviews, I would be asked what my hobbies were and I never knew what to say. Weighing myself? Counting calories? Drooling over rail-thin models in magazines? Working out and healthy eating were usually my answers, but I knew deep down I didn’t have any real hobbies that were positive at that time. I don’t mean to imply that working out or going to the gym can’t be a hobby, but for me at that time, it was an obsession and a punishment when I overate.

Over the past few years, I have created so many hobbies that I enjoy almost every single day! The first hobby that started everything was this blog. When I started writing here, something clicked inside of me. I was able to talk about my struggles and triumphs and connect with others. I truly believe that once the happiness flood gate opens, you will seek it out more and more. Happiness becomes a habit over time, just like unhappiness.

I soon discovered a passion for cooking, baking, inspirational writing, hiking, recipe creation, racing, and photography and I was able to turn some of those hobbies into a career. Now I am getting into vegetable gardening as another hobby. Instead of searching for answers when asked what my hobbies are, I now think to myself, ‘Where do I start…there are so many things I love to do!’


9. You can be happy or you can be unhappy, the work is about the same.

I would rather work hard for something positive than for something negative. If you are struggling with self-love you can always take positive steps to change your situation. Talk to your loved ones, see a therapist, join a support group, find a mentor, check out Operation Beautiful, see a Registered Dietitian, make a list of your goals, read self-help books, etc. You can always change!


‘Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.’ – Groucho Marx

Can you relate to any of these lessons or have you learned other things along your journey?

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rawkinmom April 21, 2011 at 9:38 am

great post!!! I am in the process of realizing some of the lessons you highlighted…..its great to hear it and see it from other perspectives too….I still freak out about weight fluctuations though!!! LOL


Hannah April 21, 2011 at 9:39 am

I love this post of yours Angela! I love your recipes too, but since I’m in school I can’t make them at the moment. I love hearing about your journey through recovery and self-love.

In the moment, when I’m struggling (which has been frequently lately), I’m good at reaching out for help, from friends, family, or just by writing on my blog. But in the long term, self-love is pretty hard, and I’m struggling to make that commitment…but I’m sure it’s worth it in the long run.


Hannah April 21, 2011 at 9:57 am

Also, have you done an intuitive eating post ever? I’ve read your blog for years now, but I can’t remember. There is a lot about intuitive/mindful eating from a binge-eater’s perspective, but not much for someone who is in recovery. It would be great to hear how you applied intuitive/mindful eating to your life as someone who needed to gain weight, not lose it. Does that make any sense? Haha.


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 10:45 am

Yes that does make sense! Let me sit on this for a bit.


Hannah (Balancing on Two Feet) April 21, 2011 at 12:14 pm

I love this post! I needed to read some of these inspirational words today! I especially loved the comment about the thighs! It is so important to remember how our bodies move us through this world and not just how they appear to us.


Jennifer P April 21, 2011 at 9:42 am

The whole post was great, but I especially love that quote at the end. :)


Maria April 21, 2011 at 9:45 am

A really great post. At the moment I am still at the calorie counting stage. I do try to listen to my body more, and I am much better at it, but still I am not at the final stage. But it is good to hear that it is possible! Seems silly but I dont want to be calorie counting forever- it does not take long but I feel like I should not need to.


Ashley April 21, 2011 at 9:45 am

Beautiful, love! I am so happy for you!! xo


Julie April 21, 2011 at 9:50 am

This is such an inspiring post and I can relate to most of the things you said. Women, in general, are so hard on themselves. Once one can learn to love theirself.. everything just seems to come together.
Healthy eating + finding a positive & healthy relationship with exercise has changed me forever. I’ve never felt happier or healthier!
And I agree, we all have days when we just think negative thoughts but it’s always so important to think in the positive and be grateful for who you are and what you have.

As my spin teacher says, “stick that booty out! show your neighbors what you’re workin’ with. it is what it is!”


Sarah @ veggie-kids.blogspot.com/ April 21, 2011 at 9:50 am

What a great way to start the day!



Jennifer April 21, 2011 at 9:54 am

Hi Angela,
I absolutely love this!!!!!!! I can relate to almost everything you mention. My relationship with food and exercise was very unhealthy for a long time. For years I obsessed over both, counting calories down to the macros, weighing myself daily and developing body dysmorphia. I used to compete in figure competitions, which was my way of having a reason for my obsessive behavior.
It wasn’t until I got sick with Hashimoto’s disease(autoimmune disease that attacks the body and thyroid until it doesn’t function) that this all changed. I discovered that I had several food allergies and other things such as soy and gluten were very bad for someone with my disease. I also chose to eliminate other foods that I had intolerances to such as corn, dairy and yeast. Through this process I decided to become a Raw Vegan to heal my body and it really worked. Later on I decided to just be a Vegan, but with a lot of raw incorporated.

Since being Vegan I have felt much more free. I no longer count calories and actually enjoy cooking and baking. I don’t stress about things like weight fluctuations, as you mentioned. I only step on the scale when I go to the doctor and I don’t beat myself up about the number. I feel HEALTHY and that’s what is most important. I really enjoy working out finally, as opposed to it being a chore that has to get done. Right now I’m doing P90X and loving it.
Thanks for posting this, it really resonated with me and many others I’m sure!!!


Pearl (Crunch and Chew) April 21, 2011 at 9:54 am

Wonderful post, Angela! Number three is really important to me, and something I sometimes struggle to remember – that food is something that you need and something that can make you feel good. It’s your friend!


Kate April 21, 2011 at 9:55 am

So well-written! Some of these things I’m still working on but I feel 1000% better giving my body good nutrition than being in that nasty struggle of not eating one day and overeating the next. It feels so miserable.

I stopped weighing myself too and that helped immensely. Sure, I’d like to know what my weight is sometimes but I know I’ll stress over it and undereat.


faith @ lovelyascharged April 21, 2011 at 9:55 am

This was absoluelty beautiful, and its something that I and many of your readers can certainly identify with. I agree that the process is very slow and gradual. It may seem that there is not much change in the way we treat ourselves from day to day, but when I look back to where I was a year ago, there is a HUGE difference. I can’t believe some of the things I used to put my body through and how blessed I am to have moved beyond them. Your blog was one of the first ones that I read and it definitely inspired me to start moving beyond the unhealthiness and find that good relationship with myself – thank you!


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 10:47 am

Thank you Faith :) I agree about change being very slow and gradual. That often means it will STICK and be long-lasting too!


The Teenage Taste April 21, 2011 at 9:56 am

Great post Angela! I’m bookmarking it!


Jen @ keepitsimplefoods.com April 21, 2011 at 9:58 am

Beautiful post! Sorry to hear that you are sick. I’m recovering from the same type of cold…it’s been nearly 2 weeks! Hope you get better soon!


Lizzie April 21, 2011 at 10:00 am

Angela, I think you would really love the book I am reading right now: “Mile Markers” by Kristin Armstrong (Lance Armstrong’s ex-wife). It’s a compilation of her blog in book form and has a lot of the same messages that I see you putting forward in this post.

Hope you feel better soon! Hot honey and lemon (make it thick so you have to spoon it out), hot shower with Vicks stuffed up your nose (inhale that steam!!), and down time (you know you have telly you want to catch up on!) :)


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 10:47 am

Thank you :) I will check out that book.


Lauren at Keep It Sweet April 21, 2011 at 10:02 am

I love these posts, a constant reminder on how to respect ourselves!


Morgan @ Life After Bagels April 21, 2011 at 10:05 am


just that …



Ashley April 21, 2011 at 10:06 am

I’ve always struggled with my weight– and the relationship I have with food is not a good one. I’m working on it– but I admit, it is a struggle! I’ve been reading books such as “In Defense of Food,” to inform myself about the foods I eat. The hardest part though, is the confidence to look into the mirror and say something good about myself and not immediately tear myself apart. How come it is so easy to destroy our confidence but so hard to build it? My boyfriend has been a huge help– we are working together to eat better, workout together. He’s my best friend– and he loves me for who I am, and is always telling me to stop, look in the mirror, and see what he sees. I’ve been trying– and I’m starting to see it:) Thank you for this post– and hope you feel better soon!


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 10:49 am

That made me tear up a little because Eric used to do the same for me. I admire your determination! Stick with it and one day you will stop in your tracks and realize that you have made a ton of progress.


Ashley April 21, 2011 at 6:23 pm

I know! He tells me all the time, whenever I have a bad hair day (those are the worst!) or my clothes don’t fit right– he just keeps telling me! And it builds my confidence, it makes me feel that if someone else can see it then why should I force myself not too?! And then I found this blog, and all the recipes! Whenever I’m at a loss of what to make… I’m like, “I’ll go to Angela’s blog!”
Anyway, thank you! It’s been a crazy day but I just looked in the mirror and noticed that my hair looks fab! haha, I even danced around a little because it was such a refreshing thought:)


JenATX April 21, 2011 at 1:17 pm

Ashley, be proud of yourself that you are working to create a better relationship with food & positivity. That is not an easy thing to do! The blog world has really helped me & I’m glad that you are part of the community that is so so supportive :) I think what Angela said about happiness being a journey rather than a destination is so relevant- you can’t just snap your fingers & say “I have no food issues now!” They’re always going to be there but you can turn those thoughts around if you keep working on it.


Ashley April 21, 2011 at 6:24 pm

Thank you so much! Hope you had a wonderful day! I am really happy I’ve found such a wonderful community:)


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 8:48 pm

Thank you both so much! Love reading your thoughts.


Olya April 21, 2011 at 5:49 pm

How could someone do such a great job at making us feel we should look somewhat different to what we are? My friend (who never exercised) got comments how great and sporty she looked and I (used to exercise a LOT at that time) wouldn’t get any comment. It hurt. And I would exercise and starve myself even more. But with time I realised that we’re all different and have different bodies. Why should anyone tell me how to look? And why should I wait for someone’s approval. I praise myself and feel proud for the efforts I put into eating well and exercising. Sure, I would love to look like one of the models from a glossy cover. But… if I did, would I be here where I’m now with my wonderful husband? If not, I don’t want it!


Holly @ The Runny Egg April 21, 2011 at 10:09 am

I love this post Angela — I feel like I’ve been on the road to health for a while now — and it is true, there is no finish line (and if there were, I still think I’m far from it) — but I’m getting close to it.

I loved reading about your hobbies — because that is something I struggle with. I never knew what to say, and I still don’t! A work in progress :)


Carolyn April 21, 2011 at 10:12 am

What a timely post. I’m deep in the pit of a self-loathing moment today. I saw a photo of myself this morning that was taken at a luncheon for work last week and I look so huge and fat. I’m getting married in 2 weeks and I thought I looked OK and I know I’m as heavy as I’ve ever been, but the photos don’t lie. I’m starting what I call a “crash diet”, but is really a “sodium crash/no alcohol” diet as soon as I get to the grocery store to stock up on veggies, brown rice and lean protein. But I can’t shake this feeling of “why did you let yourself get to this point?” and the general feeling of self-hate/failure. A good run tonight will help that feeling, I hope (training for my 2nd half marathon now)…but I’m really struggling with myself today. I feel like crying… :(

I loved your quote and I have two quotes tacked to my office wall at work and I’m trying as hard as I can to pull strength from them:

“If you don’t like a thing, change it; and if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.” ~Maya Angelou

“Now if you’re going to win any battle you have to do one thing. You have to make the mind run the body. Never let the body tell the mind what to do. The body will always give up. It is always tired in the morning, noon and night. But the body is never tired if the mind is not tired.” Gen. George S. Patton

Hope you feel better soon!! I find curries help with being sick too.


Leanne (Bride to Mrs.) April 21, 2011 at 10:13 am

Angela, this is so beautifully written.

I’m finding myself at crossroads right now….

skinny/calorie counting/obsessing about gym/looking “perfect” in my wedding dress


healthy/learning-to-find-my-happy-weight/exercising & eating out of love for myself/looking like the best version of ME in my wedding dress

It seems so obvious to go with the latter, but I find that option scary because I don’t trust myself around food. I worry that if I give up being ‘strict’ with myself and obsessing about calories/working out, that I’ll balloon up to 300 pounds.

Reading this blog entry of yours, the point you made about “I am responsible for my own happiness and no one else.” really resonated with me.

I need to start taking better care of myself, both physically & emotionally. I’m a smart woman, so why do I let a number in a calorie counting book or the number on a scale, matter to me so much?

Thank you for writing about topics like this.


Caroline April 21, 2011 at 12:10 pm

I feel I’m at a very similar point, trying to navigate between leading a healthy lifestyle while maintaining a weight I feel happy and confident with. I’m very afraid of letting go of the calorie-counting, etc. in the name of being “healthier” and ultimately gaining weight.

Posts like this make all the difference. You are an absolute inspiration, Angela. For me, the sentence “I’m in this for the long haul and I would take happiness and a healthy body any day over the alternative.” really hit home for me. It isn’t about obsessing over every second of every day, every morsel we put in our bodies. It’s about the big picture, and I don’t want to wake up one day when I’m 65 and feel I’ve wasted my whole life fixating on such insubstantial things. It’s a journey, and a challenge, but one you have helped to make easier and more enjoyable through your uplifting posts and delicious eats!

So thank you for being you.


Heather (heathers dish) April 21, 2011 at 10:14 am

I love it when you do posts like this :) and you’re right in that there’s no finish line…it’s about journey anyway! Beautifully written by a beautiful woman!


Danica April 21, 2011 at 10:14 am

I hope you feel better soon! I absolutely LOVE this advice ~ it might be my favorite post yet. I am saving it to post on the wall to remind me that Self Love needs to always come first every day!



Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 10:49 am

Thanks, that means a lot!


Christina April 21, 2011 at 10:15 am

Love, love, LOVE this post!!! You are a ray of light Angela! Glow on girl.


Meghanne April 21, 2011 at 10:17 am

This is an amazing post Angela. It is so inspiring to read about your journey in recovery and finding balance. It speaks to me in so many ways. When I don’t count calories on an online counter I do it in my head (and have for over 15 years), I feel like my life lacks hobbies that don’t involve calorie burning or food. It is a struggle, I love food but don’t let it myself enjoy it…humm…perhaps as writing this I have just stumbled upon something here. Anyhoo, I’m inspired by your creative pursuits and have been doing lots of reading about intuitive eating lately and am trying to follow my bodies quiet messages that are leading me softly towards a life of happiness, balance and freedom. Blessings to you.


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 10:51 am

Thanks Meghanne, you sound like you are on the right track!


Nicole @ Fresh & Fit April 21, 2011 at 10:19 am

I love and relate to all these points! I use to be the same way with the gym as a hobby thing. It was my life and all I knew. The treadmill was my best and only friend. Thankfully I have found many other hobbies and am learning to accept my body for what it is. Thank you for touching on this subject!


Tulika April 21, 2011 at 10:19 am

Angela, you are truly inspiring! Thanks for sharing this–it is always nice to have a reminder to listen to our bodies.

Hope you feel better soon! I am just getting over a similar sore throat, and unfortunately the best thing to do is rest! :)


Therese April 21, 2011 at 10:22 am

I do love these posts, Angela! I have to say, the greatest thing that ever happened to me was the day I realized that only I was responsible for my own happiness. Until then I relied on everyone else to make me happy. When I understood what self-responsibility truly meant, my life changed completely!


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 10:51 am

Love that :)


Nicole April 21, 2011 at 10:23 am

I love what you say about hobbies. Obsessing over weight and exercise is a full time job and doesn’t leave room (or energy) for much else. I’ve had similar problems and feel sad when I look at other women whose lives are consumed by diet and exercise. Focusing on eating and exercise is a part of life, but there is so much more to experience!


amanda April 21, 2011 at 10:23 am

thanks for this. changed my day.


Ashley April 21, 2011 at 10:23 am

I love that quote.

Self-love (and well, everything in life) is such a journey and it has been something that I’ve really struggled with this year. Despite helping so many others achieve their goals and aspirations, my own personal demons and body image have fought hard against me this year. Sometimes I feel like I move 2 steps forward and then something will happen and I’m 10 steps back. It is a constant struggle, but I’m working on it. I love these tips and suggestions and this post couldn’t have been more timely.

Something that I try to keep in perspective is how much healthier I am (physically) and how grateful I am for that. I wrote about the changes I’ve made over the last two years on my blog today… when I look back at my old habits I can see how far I’ve come. Being healthy and happy is integral to me and now it’s just about creating a synergy between health/happiness/body image too.


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 10:53 am

Thanks for sharing this Ashley. I’m sorry that you have been struggling, but I think it is great that you are able to still see the positives despite what you may be going through.


Baking 'n' Books April 21, 2011 at 2:18 pm

Wow…so well said..your 1rst paragraph sounds like me for sure…

Angela – timely is right. Are you in my mind??!

I really like the “victim” one and having to take responsibility for yourself. Ab.sol.ute.ly.

Also the one about the hobbies for sure…making me think about what’s important…and doing new things…


Laura April 21, 2011 at 10:26 am

so true! thank you for your ever positive and supportive words. I too struggled with self-love/ loathing for quite a while until I finally recognized it and turned a corner. Your blog has helped pull me out of the loathy, unbalanced teeter-totter that sometimes happens. I love reading your stories, recipes (Yay Green Monster!) and insight. Thank you! :D


chelsea April 21, 2011 at 10:32 am

Great post. It is so true there is no finish line with self love I think there is a ton of starting lines because sometimes you have to start all over and as long as you dont give up your doing good!


Donna April 21, 2011 at 10:32 am

Great, amazing, awesome post Angela!
I read it a few times and went to your binge eating posts and read that and its sooo hard to read you talking about going through exactly what i did to myself
I haven’t stepped on a scale in about 2 years now and even if i am a size up from what i used to be, i don’t look horrible the way i realize i did at my lowest weight
I actually tried vegan for a week recently and was surprised just how great i felt!
Thanks again for another inspiring post :)


Tessa @ Amazing Asset April 21, 2011 at 10:38 am

Oh Angela, I appreciate you writing this post more than you know. I have been struggling with disordered eating for about 8 years now and am simply sick of it. After finally recognizing my issues, I am slowly but surely recovering and striving to find a peace with food any my body. Eating intuitively is something I am working toward now, it’s difficult like you said, but will become easier as I practice :)
I am going to bookmark this post and refer back to it whenever I need some encouragement!


Tara @ trulysimplebits April 21, 2011 at 10:40 am

This was a wonderful post! Very honest and I am sure most, if not all, your readers can relate to at least one point in the post. You are an inspiration :) I love your recipe posts but these types of posts (real life) are by far my favorite.

PS – Hope you feel better soon!


kaila @ healthy helper! April 21, 2011 at 10:42 am

Love this Ange! Such a great post with an even better message! You are a fabulous writer and express things so beautifully. Yay for self love!


Lisa April 21, 2011 at 10:45 am

Weight fluctuations are very normal. I can fluctuate 5 pounds daily, monthly, depending on hormones and water retention. But I still get stuck in that cycle of “why did I gain 3 pounds??” and over-analyzing what I’ve eaten. Sometimes I get stuck in that mode too.


Emily April 21, 2011 at 10:47 am

Angela this is such a wonderful post :) Thank you – it’s exactly what I needed to hear today. Yesterday I stepped on some scales for the first time and, despite the fact I hadn’t even really put any weight on, it still started that negative spiral of emotion. By last night I’d managed to remind myself that my body does awesome things and that I fuel it well, and reading this post has just reaffirmed for me that there’s no need to beat myself up over nothing :) xx


[email protected] April 21, 2011 at 10:49 am

I love what you said about being vegan, so true it allows you to live for something greater and put purpose in everything you eat. I completely agree its not restrictive at all I have become a better person because of it plus you’re forced to be creative and focus more on your health!


Hilary April 21, 2011 at 10:50 am

This is regarding your sore throat :) If it gets really bad (& wakes you up at night) I’ve actually found that Advil works. I’m guessing you try to unnecessarily take medicine but sometimes, I find that my need to feel well outwins my desire to try every all-natural remedy under the sun (that sometimes don’t work).
Hope you feel better soon!


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 10:56 am

Thanks! I have been taking some when it feels real bad…I find it helps with my sore ears (when I swallow), and helps my throat a bit too. Im all for natural approaches but there is no sense in suffering all day long! :)


Andrea B. @ Vegvacious April 21, 2011 at 10:51 am

This is an amazing post! I really love #9 – in my past life, I found it was so much more easier to be negative and miserable but now I find so much more joy in every single day. I think for me it really started when I decided to be a vegetarian and live a more compassionate lifestyle. I am a work in progress in many of your other points, but I think I’ve come a long way in the last 2 years. Thank you for the inspiration to keep moving forward.


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 10:56 am

thanks everyone! I love reading your comments. :)


Sam April 21, 2011 at 11:04 am

Hi Angela

Great post! I hope you feel better soon :)

*Check out the Be Real Movement on my site and let me know what you think :)


Carly April 21, 2011 at 11:04 am

I can relate to so much of what you said here; what a beautifull written post!
Do you watch How I met your Mother? Whenever I find myself getting down, or being really critical I always remember that show and Barney’s quote: “When I get sad, I stop being sad and be awesome instead”.
Being sad and being awesome take the exact same amount of effort :)


Sam April 21, 2011 at 11:06 am

Haha! Great idea Carly. I had forgotten about that one :)


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 3:52 pm

haha that is funny..I’ve never seen that show but it sounds like my cup of tea ;)


Ashley April 21, 2011 at 6:26 pm

I read this book recently called “The Girl With No Shadow,” by Joanne Harris and she had this amazing quote– when the world got the character down, she would say “[email protected]%# off, I’m fabulous!”
And I love that show! Great quote!


Liz April 21, 2011 at 11:05 am

I love that these tips are concrete and practical; so often I feel like we hear we should just learn to “love ourselves” (while in the same article being bombarded by images of beautiful – but stick thin – women). These points are real and can be taken by anyone to work towards self love. I love it!!


Sam April 21, 2011 at 11:08 am

Good point Liz! I love how some women’s magazines claim to be about “empowering women” but always have stick thin models, or “how to please your boyfriend/husband” articles, as if weight and men are the only thing in our lives.


AGS @ West With Flight April 21, 2011 at 3:02 pm

The subtext in these articles is really amazing, isn’t it? I actually *stopped* reading all “women’s” magazines about 2 years ago, because I realized I always ended up feeling crappy about myself afterward. I’ve never regretted that step — and I’d say there was about a 50% reduction in complaining to myself/my husband about how I looked after I took that step. We *can* take basic steps to ensure our own sanity!


Sam April 21, 2011 at 3:06 pm

I’d like to add this point – alot of the editors and writers for these women’s magazines are WOMEN – who are supporting the vicious and imaginary/made up societal rules about how women should look, think and act.

If more women supported each other rather than competed with each other, we’d take over the world, lol!


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 3:51 pm

Great points!


Liz @ Tip Top Shape April 21, 2011 at 11:11 am

Great lessons! The one about countering negative talk is great. It’s so easy to fall into the pattern of negative thinking. It seems harmless but can really weigh on you after a while.


Paula April 21, 2011 at 11:12 am

Goodness, how I definitely relate! I love everything you wrote, but what stands out for me is that “there is no finish line.” There is ebb and flow in life, we are constantly growing and changing and being present and doing our best in the midst of that is what our focus should be, not some fixed destination in the future. I used to always think: “I will be happy when…. I’m enduring this now so I can have [fill in the blank] in the future… etc.” Self-love is a process, living a healthy lifestyle is a process, seeking and doing meaningful work is a process, not a destination – there is no finish line and that’s OK, enjoy wherever you’re at today!


Natalie April 21, 2011 at 11:14 am

Thank you Angela. I really needed this today. After many set-backs as of late, this stuff helps keep me going. Your blog is indeed an inspiration and tool I use to keep up a positive mind-set.


Aska April 21, 2011 at 11:17 am

Thank you for this post! I am currently seeing a therapist and it’s fascinating how recovering from disordered eating starts from the inside and learning to reconnect with yourself. I too have ignored my body’s needs for years and I am learning to listen to them again. I am also learning to be happy “by myself,” not depending on my boyfriend or anyone else. I’m so thankful for inspirational women like you who I can look up to. Thank you again and I hope your throat feels better soon!


Emily @ One Sweet Vegan April 21, 2011 at 11:22 am

I loved this post! Thank you for all you do every day. You’re greatly appreciated by me and so many others.
I hope you fell better very soon. :-)


Emily @ One Sweet Vegan April 21, 2011 at 11:23 am



T April 21, 2011 at 11:26 am

Yes. Beautiful post. The practice of acceptance is an ongoing practice indeed.

Very VERY nice to meet you. :)


Shannon April 21, 2011 at 11:28 am

I love this post. I am really working on not being so negative all the time and trying to love myself more.


Jen April 21, 2011 at 11:33 am

Hi Angela, 
Your blog came with perfect timing today – I too am suffering from the spring cold/cough and have spent the day in bed. I had just finished reading through my rss feeds when yours popped up! I read that you are not going to be at the farmers market this year! I cycled to oakville a couple times this summer from Toronto and welcomed your baking as a fueling stop before returning home!
Where, other than online ordering, can I buy your delicious treats?
Keep looking after yourself! We’ll be healthy again soon!


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 3:49 pm

Hey Jen!! I will certainly miss your visits! That is so awesome you cycled so far last summer. I do local pick ups too, if you are interested give me a shout. Hope you are well!


Katherine: Unemployed April 21, 2011 at 11:46 am

this list is something I could not need more at this point in my life; thank you for your wisdom


Mary (What's Cookin' with Mary) April 21, 2011 at 11:47 am

I love when you write these kinds of posts Ange, they really speak to me. I’ve already bookmarked it for later too… :)


The Mrs @ Success Along the Weigh April 21, 2011 at 11:51 am

These are all great points we should think about. Because of great sites like yours, I’m venturing into serious photography instead of hoping a few shots out of 50 turn out well. I so get the “hobby” question. We were having dinner with a chef one night and he asked what we did in our home town and at the time we were in hermit mode and it was embarrassing to not have much to say.


Cindy Robinson April 21, 2011 at 12:07 pm

Thank you so much for sharing Angela. Although I think I know all of this stuff deep down, it’s nice to hear it again. Especially the “in it for the long haul” references. I’m working on my self love & have been listening to The Power by Rhonda Byrne (who also wrote The Secret) and it gives me so much confidence and motivation. However, when I’m not “feeling the love” I get a little sad wondering “what’s wrong with me?” It’s a great reminder to know this is normal, and it’s not a good or a bad thing, it just happens, and then we move on :) I’m so glad I “found” you through a recipe link from Caitlin @ HTP :)
P.S. You are truly glowing in the picture of you in the kitchen, the sunshine hitting your face speaks louder than words.


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 3:48 pm

Thank you Cindy for your beautiful comment! Made me smile. :)
I too used to think that I was ‘messing up’ when I had a streak of bad/upset/down/unhappy days. Was I failing? What was I doing wrong?
I have come to realize that everyone has ups and downs. It is the ebb and flow of life!


Laura @ LauraLikesDesign April 21, 2011 at 12:10 pm

This was really well-written and covered a lot of things that we all need to be reminded of often! Thanks for posting! Enjoy the rest of your day!


Angela @ Eat Spin Run Repeat April 21, 2011 at 12:13 pm

Aww I loved this post Ange! I too am trying to figure out intuitive eating and a massive congrats on “figuring it out”, because I (and I’m sure many others) find it to be an enormous challenge. When I used to count calories, like you said, I ate based on how many calories I had left over, not whether or not I was actually hungry. Also, I love the part about having hobbies. Since starting my blog, I’ve learned that I love so many things – cooking, photography (although I’m not great at it yet!), writing, and some artsy-ish projects that keep me calm and get my creative juices flowing. I hope you’re having a fabulous day!


Samantha @ Health, Happiness & Skinny Jeans April 21, 2011 at 12:29 pm

I love this. I did a post yesterday discussing perspective and how it is ultimately the catalyst for self confidence when its positive. Thank you for sharing more of your journey with us!


Stefanie @TheNewHealthy April 21, 2011 at 12:35 pm

I’m in love with this post – I agree with each and everyone of your lessons on self-love. :)


Stephanie April 21, 2011 at 12:54 pm

Ooh I love this post! I think I’m going to bookmark it so I can remind myself to follow these principles.
For your sore throat I recommend that you have lots of green tea, some miso soup and start taking oil of oregano followed by LOTS of water, though a diet of banana soft serve and green monsters doesn’t sound that terrible to me! ;)


Lisa Fine April 21, 2011 at 12:55 pm

Angela, this is wonderful. I love that you bring up so many different points that have taught you how to love yourself more.

I imagine many of your readers have struggled with self-confidence and eating issues, and it is really motivating to see how your and your lifestayle are so healthy and balanced.


Varsha April 21, 2011 at 12:55 pm

Great post!
You know it would be really nice if u could do a post on mindful eating…??

Also, hot/warm is better than ‘cold’ for a sore throat. So sipping on anything warm will help your throat. Take (Ginger + lemon + honey) 3 times a day and keep up the salt gargling and u’ll feel better really soon.


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 3:45 pm

Do you have any specific questions about mindful eating?


Varsha April 22, 2011 at 1:01 pm

Maybe ‘mindful eating’ was the wrong choice of words. What I meant was more like ‘eating to gain weight’ for really thin people and I mean pathetically thin people. :)


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 22, 2011 at 2:54 pm

I’m not sure I know enough to write a post on that, but from what I have heard about the topic before it is good to eat a lot of calorie dense foods like nuts or nut butter, avocados, etc. It would be best to talk to a RD about that. Goodluck!


Michelle | GOLD-HEARTED GIRL April 21, 2011 at 12:56 pm

This is a really inspirational post, thanks Angela. I’ve definitely come far in my road to self-love, though there are still struggles daily. Small struggles, however, which I’m proud of. :) I definitely see food as nourishment moreso than ever.



Becky April 21, 2011 at 12:59 pm

What a great post! I especially like what you say about eating. I struggle with this. I currently eating raw, but would like to switch over to vegan and I am going to be starting with your amazing recipes this week. I still think that I need to count my caloris all the time instead of eating for fuel. I always think I am not eating enough especially on days I work out, but after reading your post I am just going to try and eat when I am truly hungry. Also when you talk about the hobbies…i relized that I don’t have any hobbies. I am a mother of two young children and I don’t every take time for myself except at the gym, but I need something else. Thank you for opening my eyes to this…I am going to work on it!

You are a wonderful inspiration! I check your website EVERYDAY! Thanks for taking the time to do a website.


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 3:44 pm

That is a great point about making time for other activities as a mom. I can see how that would be very difficult to fit in. I’m excited for you…let me know what you end up trying!


Kate @ Walking in the Rain April 21, 2011 at 1:09 pm

This is an awesome post! Thank you so much for sharing!

I’m relieved you point out that it is a process, will take some time, won’t always be perfect, but is ultimately worth it.


Connie the cookie monster April 21, 2011 at 1:12 pm

thank you so much for this post! and yes i can TOTALLY relate all of this! actually yesterday i went through this whole realization thing. ive been struggling with being “happy” for the past 2 years and I kept trying to restore my life to how it was before these two years, but reality is, life has changed, i can’t make it how it used to be. I kept getting frustrated at myself for not doing this how i USED to or not feeling like i USED to. Yesterday, it hit me that i should just let that go and go with whats going on NOW in my life. I just have to find new ways to make things work for myself now instead of dwelling on the past.


Corinne April 21, 2011 at 1:13 pm

Beautiful post! Self-love is something to work on each and every day, you are so right.


kelli April 21, 2011 at 1:41 pm

great post!


Cat April 21, 2011 at 2:00 pm

I was on the other end of the spectrum. I ate to calm my feelings. I understand this post all too well. Wonderful.


Moni'sMeals April 21, 2011 at 2:01 pm

awww, Ang so pure and great! I love your realness.

Hope you feel better. :)


Katrina April 21, 2011 at 2:13 pm

Hi Angela,
I’v been a follower of your blog for awhile and posts like these help me a lot. I’ve been struggling with an eating disorder for awhile, and it helps to see that it is possible to regain back life likeyou have. I feel like there is no way out, and that this is how I’m meant to live but I’m trying to learn from everyone else’s experiences like yours to keep me pushing. Thank you for yours words and advice, it’s appreciated.


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 3:42 pm

Thank you Katrina…goodluck with your recovery!


Sara April 21, 2011 at 2:15 pm

It’s so nice to have posts like this once in a while for some perspective. Recovery, being healthy and happy, takes so much time, the big picture is easily lost. Recently, I started focusing on myself, and what truly makes me happy, and a lot of things just fell into place. I still have so far to go, and reading your progress always gives me the extra push to keep going.


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 3:42 pm

You are right, it does take a lot of time and effort! It is definitely an ongoing thing, every day.


Averie (LoveVeggiesAndYoga) April 21, 2011 at 2:27 pm

Beautiful, thoughtful, wonderfully honest post, Angela!

First, sorry you are sick….booo! Hope you feel better soon!

“I am responsible for my own happiness and no one else.”–
So true. I have always known this and even though it’s a hard pill to swallow sometimes, it just means there is no victim mentality in my life, and anything that happens, I have somehow chosen that path or gotten into a situation that even tho it wasnt my choosing, if I want to be happy/make changes, then I alone must work to do that and no one is going to do it for me.

And the last point…finding hobbies. YES! I love everything you said about what you blog has helped you with from cooking to recipe development to photography..I feel the same and love that about my blog.



[email protected] April 21, 2011 at 2:32 pm

Great post. I love hearing about how far you have come. I still struggle sometimes ( I have thought about emailing you recently), especially in terms of other people: like my boyfriend- but you are right: we need to take responsibility for our own happiness.


Dalai Lina April 21, 2011 at 2:33 pm

This is a really lovely post. You are helping many people and clearly this was your calling!!!


Katie @ Finding My Om April 21, 2011 at 2:46 pm

I love the “food is not just about calories or fat grams.” I view food and eating as an art. I enjoy trying new foods and feeling the different tastes and textures in my mouth. I also enjoy eating foods that give me energy. I was tired of being tired. I was tired of always being hungry. But focusing on eating foods that are actually good for you, gave me energy and still kept my weight maintained. :)


AGS @ West With Flight April 21, 2011 at 2:55 pm

My main observation is that talking critically about one’s weight/body seems to be a uniquely shared weakness within the female community. For some reason, women seem to enjoy commiserating about their disliked body parts. I have never really understood this behavior, though I certainly engaged in it at times because that seemed to create a kind of “bond” with other women. I’d call this body image commiserating a huge crutch that we must train ourselves not to engage in. It is a crutch because being critical about ourselves and engaging in talking about those critical items (for what purpose — to hear someone agree, or to hear someone say “oh it’s not so bad. . . I have a big xyz”), is a false way to grow personally and in a relationship, but a way many women choose to develop intimacy.

As I became healthier and more confident in my own skin, I started to notice this behavior more and more. . . and I frankly think that I lost a bit in making/staying friends because I wouldn’t engage is this sort of critical repartee after a point. If only as women we would begin by saying positive things about ourselves to one another — be it about our bodies or our work or our relationships or our hobbies and interests — rather than begin with the negative — I believe we’d suddenly find that we can bond and grow in our relationships in a much more genuine and sustainable way.


Sabrina April 21, 2011 at 3:06 pm

Lesson number 6 is gold for me. I have never had an eatting disorder and I have never struggled to stay thin, if anything I need to focus on putting on weight. The most important thing I have ever learned was how not to be the victim. And that I was the only one making me a victim. I was in a terrible physically abusive relationship for 8 years. Until I figured out that the only reason I was getting beat up everyday was because I stayed. I changed everything. I changed my whole life, it was the most difficult thing I have ever done and I did every step of it relearning how to live without making myself a victim. I have never looked back, I am canadian from northern Canada. I now live in Florence Italy with my incredible husband Fabio and everyday I laugh and smile and live without fear.


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 3:39 pm

Thank you for sharing..what an inspiration you are!


Sabrina April 23, 2011 at 3:02 pm

Thank you Angela, You are the true inspiration.


Reka April 21, 2011 at 3:17 pm

My favorite is no.7: Weight fluctuations are normal. That is what I’ve been trying to teach myself lately. :)


Cait @ Beyond Bananas April 21, 2011 at 3:22 pm

Wow – all of these are so true. I am struggling in recovery right now.. every day a struggle. But reading these lessons really warmed my heart. The one thing that I can say really rings true for me-atleast..is having a hobby that you love. I say this – because I have just found a hobby that I love. I decided to stop being a reader in the blog world.. and become a blogger – write my words. It gives me a huge uplifting feeling – it is something that I love to do – look forward to do (and so far, has not become too time consuming/a cause of stress). Sharing my story of struggle was the hardest, but best decision i have made.
I love your notion of it taking the same amount of energy to be happy.. or unhappy. So true. Why – would I choose to look at things negatively.. positivity spins on everything.. from here on out… as often as possible!


CandaceLane April 21, 2011 at 3:32 pm

Your post just made my day. I just gave birth to my second child about 5 weeks ago and being a SAHM for the past almost 4 years, while great, I feel as though I have lost myself in the “Mommy” role. I have forgotten what I love, how to really take care of myself (mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually), and that I have the power to change all of that.
Thank you for this post, thank you for your blog…Ive been following you for over a year now. Love it!! :-)

Feel better!


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 21, 2011 at 3:38 pm

Thank you for sharing Candace! :)


Julia April 21, 2011 at 3:41 pm

I read your blog frequently and rarely comment, but I just want you to know how inspirational your blog is. Thank you so much for posts like this.


CathyK April 21, 2011 at 3:58 pm

angela, you are so very gifted and talented with creating recipes, dreaming up healthy delicious ideas…but your posts like this are my favourite. i so appreciate your honesty and sincerity. i’ve read this post twice now, and will return to it again! #1,6,8,9 really made me stop and reflect – thank you for that.
have a wonderful easter weekend, i hope you feel better soon.


Laura @ Sprint 2 the Table April 21, 2011 at 3:59 pm

I love these reminders. I really identify with food is not being only about calories or fat. I love to create – food has become a creative outlet and a source of relaxation for me in the past few years. It’s my passion!


Amanda April 21, 2011 at 4:02 pm

Thanks for a great post. I really enjoy reading your blog. You are an inspiration :)


Laura April 21, 2011 at 4:04 pm

Thank you so much for this post, it was really moving to read about your journey and really helpful to read these lessons in self-love as part of my own journey. Thank you for your honesty and continuing inspiration!


Leah (The Kind Weight Watcher) April 21, 2011 at 4:11 pm

First of all, I just wanted to let you know that I received my first order of Glo Bars this week, and they are amazing!!!

Secondly, thanks for this post, it’s so inspiring to me (as usual). :-)

I even quoted you in my facebook status just now “You can be happy or you can be unhappy, the work is about the same.” because those words really speak to me.

On how you went from calorie-counting/eating disorder to being an intuitive eater, that is an ultimate goal of mine, but lately I’m scared that I will have to to track my food forever if I want to keep this weight off and keep my eating disorder out of my life. :-(


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 22, 2011 at 7:18 am

Thanks for your comment. I’m glad you enjoyed the bars too! :)


Elli[email protected] April 21, 2011 at 4:25 pm

great reminders Angela!! and I totally agree that intuitive eating takes a long time! that’s why we need to hone into our feelings emotionally and physically, and whatever our bodies are telling us, is usually what we should do :)


anne April 21, 2011 at 4:28 pm

What a wonderful post! I especially love lessons #8 and 9.


sarah April 21, 2011 at 4:30 pm

Thank you for this post! It has taken me til my mid thirties to realize that weight fluctuations are completely normal. As long as I am making healthy food choices and giving my body what it needs, I will not gain unnecessary weight. Such a great message to send to our daughters and other young ones who are be bombarded with unhealthy images.
On a side note, I was meaning to comment on your post about your back and improving your posture. I have been doing Pilates for the past 2 years and it has made such a difference in my posture and alignment. If you have a great instructor, they will really get your mind thinking about how you move, stand and treat your body. I love it and can’t go a few days without a class. Just thought you might like to know…
Feel better soon!


Kath (My Funny Little Life) April 21, 2011 at 4:59 pm

Sorry to hear you’re sick! (I’mas well currently, and it sucks. :()

Wonderful post again, Angela! I can relate to a lot of what you’ve written, although I still have some of the distance to go. I’m confident I will, though. And yes, it takes time. A year, or two. But it’s *so* worth it! :)


Kath (My Funny Little Life) April 21, 2011 at 5:01 pm

I also want to thank you that you write so openly about everything. Most people don’t, due to fear or whatever, but it shows strength rather than weakness if you do.


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 22, 2011 at 7:17 am

I hope you feel better too Kath!
I’m always a bit nervous when I hit publish on these kinds of posts…but I never regret it.


Char April 21, 2011 at 5:27 pm

I love this post for many reason. 1) I don’t count calories, but I used to it, and it is honestly one step that leads to being happy vs. unhappy. 2) Hobbies – blogging definitely is added to the list as a new blogger, and photographer soon to follow (as soon as I can get a nice camera) and 3) I am on the right track to eliminating meats. I’ve been trying to gradually work towards that – I just want to read up on how to provide myself with proper nutrition…because I really want to do my research before jumping in!


Cristina Ione Lopez April 21, 2011 at 5:37 pm

you are such a beautiful person, thank you for this..
feel better! <33


Sarah April 21, 2011 at 5:55 pm

I had to smile when I read about your ‘hobbies’. I can totally relate to not knowing what to say when asked that question. It was only recently, after a long process of self discovery and a brief leave of absence from work, that I could enthusiastically respond with multiple answers. :)

Thanks for a great post.


megan @ the oatmeal diaries April 21, 2011 at 6:21 pm

Thank you so much for this post, Angela. It was seriously JUST what I needed today. I am saving this and possibly even printing it out to look at from time to time! :)


erin m. {{well in l.a.}} April 21, 2011 at 6:45 pm

Lessons in Self-Love are so needed! We often neglect to take care of the most important person in our lives: our own self. Great guidelines, great post and great advice on balancing life!


Lauren April 21, 2011 at 7:15 pm

I loved this post! I can definitely relate to these lessons, and being responsible for your own happiness is so important. It’s so easy to get into the mindset of “I will be happy when or if I do this,” but I’ve learned to embrace happiness daily.


[email protected] April 21, 2011 at 7:46 pm

Beautifully written. Thank you for this post. You are so inspirational for those in recovery from ED’s because you seem so perfectly happy and balanced and healthy!


Pure2raw twins April 21, 2011 at 7:54 pm

Beautiful post! Just what I needed to hear and be reminded of…self love is a journey. Life will have its ups and downs, but embracing life and putting my health first is so important.


Lou April 21, 2011 at 8:28 pm

i don’t think cold liquid would do any good to a sore throat! try warm honey water with a bit of lemon! always work for my family! :)


erin April 21, 2011 at 8:41 pm

I’m so glad I checked your blog today! When I read #9 ‘If you are struggling with self-love you can always take positive steps to change your situation,’ I just decided to get up, get outside and go walking. I needed the exercise and the fresh air & I will make a first step out of the funk I’ve been in and into momentum for feeling healthy again. So thanks:-)


Caitlyn (The Spoonful of Life) April 21, 2011 at 8:52 pm

Thank you so much for this post! I am still on my “journey,” but reading this just brought me one step closer. Thanks!


Lauren April 21, 2011 at 9:19 pm

This is so inspiring! Thank you so much for this post today. I’ve been having a really stressful, tiring week and was really starting to feel down on myself. This post really helped me to start thinking a little more positively again!


Mary April 21, 2011 at 9:38 pm

What a great post! Thank you so much for sharing. This was so inspirational, and I think everyone can relate! :)


LauraJayne April 21, 2011 at 9:40 pm

Thank you for this post (and the other linked posts about binge eating). Since choosing a vegetarian diet, I’ve found that my relationship with food has been transformed – I’m more aware of what I’m eating and am learning to intuitively eat. I’m not 100% there, especially during times of extreme stress, but I’m moving forward, and your blog is always so inspirational.


Mackenzie @ Eat. Exercise. Evolve April 21, 2011 at 10:52 pm

I’m not sure if it’s the three shots of tequila + the amazing portobello mushroom tacos with homemade salsa verde talking, but I truly love your blog and posts like these. They are very motivating for me. I am currently working a job that makes me feel like it’s not even worth it to get up in the mornings, and your story (combined with inspirational posts like these) provides me with real hope that things will eventually work out.

Keep on, keepin’ on. :)


Alaina April 21, 2011 at 11:03 pm

What a wonderful post Angela! I can definitely relate to number 6. I used to think that everything around me was causing me to feel down on myself and in turn, I lacked so much confidence. Once I got myself on track and started making myself happy, everything else around me just clicked. I have never felt so good about myself as I do now. And it took me YEARS to feel that way.


Madeline April 21, 2011 at 11:14 pm

Perfect timing for this post. Been in a funk recently and needed a little, “do something about it. duh!” kind of push. Thank you!


Kathy April 21, 2011 at 11:18 pm

I love it when you post articles on topics like these. I read your Binge Eating: Why You Shouldn’t Feel Ashamed, and I got a lot of information. I should eat when I’m hungry, not eat a whole bunch, store it, then go feel guilty and ashamed of it, then deprive myself for days on end (even though I’ve never done that, sometimes, I wouldn’t eat for 18+ hrs). Your blog is so inspirational, and I’m so happy that I found out about it! I still suffer with that though, I eat a lot then feel bad and don’t eat for awhile (I use to eat a whole bunch at 11 in the morning, then I refused to eat until the next day). The thing is, during my study classes, they don’t allow food so I have set times to eat and when I get home, guess what? I binge eat. I’m still trying to learn to stop, but in the meantime, if I binge eat, it might as well involve carrots, green monsters, and milk/cheese, right? Although, stopping it altogether is better. I really wish I could just eat 5 or so crackers and stop instead of eating one after the next even if I’m saying, “Okay, this is the LAST cracker” when I know it rarely ever is…


Sara April 21, 2011 at 11:20 pm

What a great post! I can absolutely relate to much of what you’ve written here. I’m at a happy, healthy weight FINALLY and find maintaining it to be very easy, but that wasn’t always the case. I have a long history of disordered eating but in 2007 I stopped dieting, stopped the madness, and spent the whole year finding my intuitive eating voice and listening to my body. Now I can enjoy the foods I love guilt-free and have found an amazing balance with it all. I love how you say you’re in it for the long haul- YES! Eating intuitively can take a very long time to figure out, but some hard work, soul-searching and determination can help to make it become second nature once again. Stay committed and TRUST YOURSELF.

Also, people think I’m always happy and love every inch of myself because I’m at a healthy weight- not so. Thank you for sharing that you, too, have bad days where you’re down on yourself. I think that’s normal, and it’s all about what you DO with those thoughts that matters.




Audrey April 22, 2011 at 1:00 am

Great post, Angela! I really love a lot of the things you have to say here, and I find your story so inspirational! I do just want to add, though, that some people have legitimate illness (e.g., depression) that just deciding to be happy won’t cure. I know you said to see a counselor and stuff but I just thought I would add that. It can get frustrating to keep trying to be happy but it not working if you have an actual medical problem. I hope that makes sense? I don’t mean any insult to you by saying that. I just thought I would put it out there in case other readers are experiencing that. :)


Michelle April 22, 2011 at 2:38 am

you know that I adore you. this, was incredibly, well-timed. thank you for this. It’s bookmarked and has run through my head the whole day. As you know kicking the diet/body image monster is hard..it gets easier. Everything you wrote about is exactly truth. It’s day by day, sometimes minute by minute and they grow into a chain of strength and change. You’re such a light..thank you. So thankful you wrote this..you’re helping more than you know.

rest up sweetie.



Jackie April 22, 2011 at 2:39 am

I never had any hobbies until my late 30s. Then I started playing tennis which became my one and only hobby and obsession. Last year, I hurt my shoulder and couldn’t play. I became very depressed as I had no other outlets. My husband bought me a bicycle (one of the few things I could do without hurting my shoulder) andI fell in love with cycling. About that same time, I went to a doctor who suggested that I stop eating dairy products and refined foods (white sugar & white flour). I ended up searching the internet for dairy free recipes. I found your blog. I fell in love with your recipes, your stories and your photos. Your blog became my new hobby…along with cycling and cooking. My shoulder has finally healed and I’m back to playing tennis (after a year). I have never felt better since I started eating healthy ALL the time and am now Vegan too. So I have all these new hobbies now and ironically it’s all because of a limitation and your blog. Thank you for the inspiration!


Hannah April 22, 2011 at 4:02 am

This was such a great article. As a seventeen-year-old recovering from an Eating Disorder, this is exactly the kind of article I need to read and take notice of. I hope you don’t mind I linked it to my tumblr. As most of my followers have Eating Disorders or are attempted other weight loss, hopefully they will also read it and feel inspired.


helen @ healing through positivity April 22, 2011 at 5:18 am

This is just what I needed to read today.

Thank you, thank you, thank you xxx


Christine @ Burning It Off April 22, 2011 at 6:26 am

Thanks for this! Yours was the first healthy living blog I came across (it was a total fluke; I had googled “Oakville Half Marathon & 10K” looking for my results and I came across your race recap!) and reading about your struggle really resonated with me. After a year of counting and restricting calories, I could relate to a lot of what you’d written and it made me change my attitude towards what it meant to be healthy. I realized that I was heading down a path where managing my calories was becoming an all consuming hobby and I didn’t want that… after reading your blog and discovering other healthy living blogs, I gradually became more relaxed about my diet. I still have a vague idea of how many calories I eat every day (it’s hard not to when you’ve been doing it for so long) but I no longer feel anxious if I go over my daily limit or if I eat something and don’t know it’s calorie content. So thanks again for your honesty and for sharing your struggles :)


Sarah April 22, 2011 at 6:56 am

This is such a great post! Thank you so much. I have finally moved on from the counting calories as well and happy that I did!


Jennifer Drummond April 22, 2011 at 7:49 am

I love your post today. I wish I had the strength to stop counting calories and calories burned exercising. It has become an obsession for me, and thinking of stopping gives me anxiety. I lost a great deal of weight and I am in the best shape of my life, but I have the fear if I stop the counting of every little calorie that goes in my mouth I may gain the weight back. That is so awesome that you were able to move on from the counting days and just being able to listen to your body and enjoy life. I know whats bad to eat, I know I need to exercise almost everyday, and I know what my body is telling me, but yet I just can’t stop!

Thanks for sharing this with us, maybe I’ll be more opened minded about stopping all the calorie counting madness and just enjoy life?


Aarika @ Ranting, Raving, Running April 22, 2011 at 8:48 am

I really loved this post! I even took time to read your previous posts about binge eating, and I think it demonstrates what an insightful, intelligent individual you are. Great work on your recovery and helping to inspire others to be healthier.


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 22, 2011 at 10:15 am

Aww thank you!


Danielle April 22, 2011 at 8:48 am

Such a great post! Really set me on a positive note for the day. Sometimes when I don’t feel 100% or am experiences negative self-talk, I check out some of your posts. You always have the right thing to say! Thank you so much for always being honest in your writing and a truly genuine person.


gracefulfitness April 22, 2011 at 8:52 am

Great post, thanks Angela. The last one made me smile. :)


Sarah @ SarahFit.com April 22, 2011 at 9:01 am

Love this post. I’m still waiting for the eating intuitively to kick in…


Viv April 22, 2011 at 9:05 am

Yes, I would love to see a post about this (gaining weight)! I’m actually struggeling to gain weight (in a healthy way).. I lost weight after trying to eat healthy (I learned the hard way that I need a lot of food to keep a certain weight, I just can’t eat loads of greens en fruit) and now I want to gain a few pounds but it’s hard.. I don’t want to stuff my face with crap everyday and feel like crap just to gain weight


Fernanda April 22, 2011 at 9:42 am

Great! Thank you for this post… I´ve been following your blog for a while, but this post just fits me completely. I´ve been fighting to lose weight since I am a teenager (I am 36 years old Brazilian woman, living in the land of the body adoration)… I am not fat, but it feels like I am. Your text just made me think it is time to stop weighting myself everyday, writing down everything I eat and just eat what feels right to my body… to go back to my morning walks at the park and healthy food. Thank you dear…


Melanie April 22, 2011 at 11:00 am

Thank you for sharing yourself with us. The relationship many women have with food and their bodies is a tremendously good & bad one. It can become so frustrating and overwhelming. I’ve finally reached a point in my life where being “skinny” isn’t my absorbed goal, being healthy is. I’ve started a new “relationship” with food and I’ve stopped counting calories & points. More than anything, I did this to eliminate the anxiety & stress I was feeling over food, and I feel so much better! One day, my body will bear my children and more than anything, I want to be healthy before, during and after that time comes. I want to raise my children to accept their bodies and have a healthy relationship with what goes into their mouths. I can honestly say, that most foods I was raised on, I no longer enjoy. I’d rather have a beautiful & colorful salad, than a steak. Knowing that, makes me feel better. Listen to your body and remember, we should eat to live, not live to eat.
Thank you Angela for your wonderful site – you’re helping to declutter the “clutter” in my mind when it comes to food & self acceptance!


Amber K April 22, 2011 at 12:12 pm

I don’t know if I’m quite ready to stop calorie counting. It has helped me lose 100 pounds and I’ve been maintaining it for a couple of years now. I’ve noticed when I don’t keep track my weight creeps back up. I think it’s too easy to add a little extra of everything when I’m not measuring.

But I am getting better about liking my body and viewing food as mostly fuel!


Lauren (PB&G) April 22, 2011 at 12:18 pm

I love number 4. When I switched to eating vegan I felt like a world full of possibilities opened up to me. Some people don’t quite understand it, but I do – and that’s the important part. I’m still working on the self-love, but vegan eating started me on the right track.

Have a great holiday weekend!


thehealthyapron April 22, 2011 at 12:23 pm

This is probably my favorite post you’ve written so far. I still struggle with self-love and you’re so right, it’s a daily struggle. I especially relate to the hobby point. After you talked about this, I started asking myself my own hobbies…obsessing over calories and exericsing is NOT a healthy hobby~~I LOVE cooking.baking, blogging, walks in the park, laughing with friends, and LEARNING about new foods to experiment with. :)

Thanks I needed this today ::)


lindsay April 22, 2011 at 12:29 pm

i forgot to comment yesterday but just want to say thank you! Your lessons truly are an encouragement to us all!


Cameo April 22, 2011 at 1:15 pm

Wow. Great post. I am in that period between obsessive calorie counting and intuitive eating. You are right, it certainly doesn’t happen overnight, but each month I get further and further from that mind-set. Looking back, I can’t believe how far I’ve come with the way I talk to myself about food. As for the hobbies – I can totally relate! I used to spend all my time and energy on trying to achieve a certain physique. I was on fitday.com more than I was on my own company’s internal server! All I did was tally up the food and exercise and look forward to cheat day (ie a day to binge!). It was no life. I am so much happier now. Yes, I am 15 lbs heavier as well, and sure, I’d like to lose it if I can, but not like I used to. No way. I am so much nicer now! I have so much more to give others now that I have let go of my food restrictions. And yes, blogging is an amazing hobby!


Amanda April 22, 2011 at 4:55 pm

Hey Angela,

I’ve discovered your site about a month ago and LOVE every bit of it. I feel I can relate entirely (as I’m positive many other people can). I’ve been down that road… and along the way to my recovery to health, I’ve discovered the same revelations as yourself… I’ve created a great community around me and am so thankful for friends/family support! But ultimately it was a point for me to say I take my own power back and I choose to be happy, healthy and whole.

Thanks for this post and this wonderful site, I follow it and have tried many recipes! You are inspirational and so true!

Much peace and love,
Amanda BT


Heather Dawn April 22, 2011 at 8:13 pm

You always write so beautifully and so relatable. You have continued to be an inspiration to me. I never thought trying to free myself from negative thoughts and disordered eating would be so scary. It almost seems like a safe place to tear myself down. Why does building myself up seem so scary? Reading your blog has inspired me to search for things that truly make me happy. As you said, it is something that doesn’t go away in a single day no matter how much we wish it did!
I hope you get feeling better soon!


Boom April 23, 2011 at 1:07 pm

Wonderful message!!! I love your recipes and look forward to all of your posts. You truly are an inspiration to many.


Erin April 23, 2011 at 7:39 pm

Hey Angela! I just wanted to let you know that your website is actually what inspired me to finally change/clean up my diet. I was hit by a car in January and a month into my recovery (I tore ligaments in my knee/shoulder) I happened to find your website. It made me realize my binge/purge habits were not healthy and that turning to gross, processed food for comfort wasn’t healthy either. Through reading your story I finally made (and stuck to!) a promise to keep my diet healthy. I’ve been eating “clean” for 2 months now, (with only one binge two days ago on some Easter chocolate), and I channeled by emotional eating into positive hobbies, like learning how to run properly and I actually feel alot better. I’m still working on the self confidence thing, I still have a lot of self-loathing issues made worse by my knee injury resurfacing last week. The difference is, that I’m motivated now and that I WANT to change my mindset. Thank you for all you do Angela, you have majorly inspired me and changed my life for the better.


Leslie Paquette April 23, 2011 at 9:38 pm

Thank you! I really enjoyed this post. ~Leslie


[email protected] Dishes Daily April 24, 2011 at 2:27 am

Great post. I can relate to so much of this. It’s a constant struggle to be able to self-love but always rewarding when you do.


Yvonne April 24, 2011 at 10:50 am

Thank you :)


Vivianne April 24, 2011 at 8:07 pm

All I can say is, Wow. This post was absolutely what I needed to read. I am literally about to start crying because this resonated so much with me. I’m in the midst of a self-love crisis right now, fighting the exact negative thoughts you are talking about.

I am so happy I came to your blog and I can’t wait to keep checking back. (P.S. I’m greekyogurte, your new creepin twitter follower (; )


jane April 25, 2011 at 12:50 pm

Have just read this post and so agree.! I work as a therapist and have struggled to find a healthy attitude to my weight/body . Its a relationship that has had it’s ups and downs but I know for me that learnig to recognise what is hunger and knowing what being satisfied has helped stop the destructive bingeing pattern. Being responsible for what goes in my mouth is my choice and I now nurture my body with good food rather than junk !
I cant quite embrace for me a vegan diet but it is 80% vegetarian and I’ve quit red meat and processed foods.
The whole process of cooking also suorts a much more mindful way of being !


Amanda (Tomboy That Wears Makeup) April 25, 2011 at 1:58 pm

Beautiful post from a beautiful gal! Love it!


marmat April 25, 2011 at 6:23 pm

Thank you for helping to warm my heart.


L April 25, 2011 at 11:23 pm

Hey I just gotta know, the pic — you’re really glowing — where you’re crouching and taking a photo, is that in Ottawa outside the main parliament building?


Angela (Oh She Glows) April 26, 2011 at 11:52 am

That was in Chicago actually. Thank you! :)


saravixen April 26, 2011 at 4:39 am

You’re a very inspirational, beautiful woman, thank you for your words of wisdom :) (and you’re great recipes!)


Beth B May 17, 2012 at 2:30 pm

I could not have come across this post at a better time. Thank you SO MUCH for writing this! I have been a yo-yo dieter for many many years, and have recently been on a diet kick. Over the weekend I binged a bit, and missed a workout. Literally the morning I found this post I had vowed to punish myself by eating barely anything.

Then I read your post, and it changed my mind.

Thank you for sharing your story – it has truly helped me feel good about myself, and see my body and my health in a new light. I’m bookmarking it so that I can remind myself of it again and again! :)


Angela (Oh She Glows) May 17, 2012 at 6:21 pm

Im glad you found it helpful Beth! All the best to you.


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