Good morning!
Today is a very exciting day…
- 24’s new season starts tonight and it is 2 hours
- The Golden Globes are on (I love the fashion pre-shows mostly!)
So fun. :) Is anyone watching?
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5 Things That Helped Me Beat My Obsession With Weight
Yesterday was one of those days that I really appreciated how far I have come with my Road to Health. It occurred to me that I haven’t weighed myself for about a year and a half now. I haven’t counted calories, and I generally haven’t obsessed about food for a very long time. Sure, I have my moments now and then like anyone, but for the most part I have been able to leave my eating disorder in the dust!
1) I Ditched The Scale
I have written about this countless times over the past year and for a good reason. Ditching the same, for me, was one of the most important steps in my Road To Health. I struggled for years in figuring out how to stop obsessing about my weight and what I ate. I finally figured out that for as long as I weighed myself everyday, I would never get past my focus on these issues. I don’t think weighing in is a bad thing for everyone, but for my personality it surely was. Once I stopped weighing myself, I was able to focus on other aspects of my health and take my mind off the numbers.
2) I Stopped Counting Calories
I counted calories from the age of 12 until about 25. That is a very hard habit to break! I always get emails from readers asking me how I did it and the truth is, it is not easy. While I do see the value in counting calories for some, for me it was not a good thing in my life. It took me a few years to finally stop counting calories all together. Many failed attempts. I started with not counting one meal a day, and then worked my way up to a full day, very slowly. I was quite ridden with anxiety at first, but I got over it. Much like ditching the scale, stopping calorie counting allowed me to take my focus off the numbers and onto bigger things, like my overall health.
3) I Learned About Nutrition
Before I learned about nutrition, I used to think that living off apples and ice burg lettuce was ‘healthy’. In university, I took a few advanced nutrition courses and they really changed the way I viewed food. I learned about the components of food, digestion, physiology, etc. and it really made a light bulb go off inside my head. I no longer viewed food as simply how many calories it had. I appreciated how complex nutritious foods are and what they could do for my body. These courses were instrumental in my love for nutrition.
4) I Set Goals
Goals are so important to me. As you may know, I have goals in all areas of my life for 2010. They keep me motivated, inspired, and challenged. Prior to beating the disordered eating, I never set any health related goals. Last year I set goals of running my first races- a 10k, 10 miler, and 2 half marathons (recaps here). I realized that having health and fitness goals showed me that fitness could be FUN, inspiring, and exciting. Finding something that I enjoyed made it seem less like ‘work’ and more like ‘play’. Even when I am sweating it out on the treadmill on cold winter days, I think about my spring time goal of running another race, and that instantly inspires me to train consistently.
5) I Stopped Comparing
I used to be horrible for comparing myself to other women. She has skinnier thighs, a tiny waist…she is prettier…taller…more fit. It is a vicious cycle that will never end unless you put a stop to it. There will always be someone out there who you will perceive to be ‘better’ than you in some way. I had to commit to accepting myself for who I was at this very moment in time- not 10 pounds from now. It took me a very long time to accept a few things about myself that were never going to change. Learning to love myself was one of the hardest things that I have ever done, especially after years of being my own worst enemy. Seeing a counselor while in university helped me plant the seeds and start a new journey.
It is a long road, but one that us surely worth traveling.
Have you ever made any changes in your life that helped you stop obsessing about food or your weight?
Updates:
- I changed around a few blog colours yesterday- I think it is a bit easier on the eyes now.
- Women’s Post selected me as Women of the Week- check out my interview here.
I have a full day of baking orders today…but first, a workout is in store!
Make it a good one! :D
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Ralph Waldo Emerson
this is like an answer to my prayers. I’ve been struggling with how to keep my mind off of what I’ve consumed every day. I figure it takes up 85% of my thoughts….. and there’s nothing more that I hate than that fact.
thank you for posting these sort of posts every now and again. it reminds me I’m not alone in having these thoughts and trying to conquer them.
I got rid of the scale a week ago…in a tear filled vlog.
best.decision of my life.
I gave up counting points. I sometimes want to go back to it ’cause I know if I do that then I’ll lose weight’
I feel sick and can’t do it. i deserve not to look through my life through points.
It hit me this week ‘I don’t want to be thin, I want to be fit and healthy’.
Many times the idea of being thin is what ironically consumes people. Shifting to being fit/healthy is more important.
Thanks for writing this. It reaffirms me in my journey and will help SO many others.
~Michelle
Congrats!
I too shifted from wanting to be ‘thin’ to wanting to be ‘healthy and fit’…it is like night and day.
There is SUCH a difference between working hard to be ‘thin’ and ‘healthy and fit’…. it’s unbelievable how different those two ways of living are. For me, one almost destroyed my life and the second choice, well – it made it much better!
Hello Angela!
I just wanted to say that you have truly inspired me and helped me in my goal of eating less processed foods in 2010. I have just sat down to a breakfast pumpkin pie (yum!!). Thanks for your inspiring blog and good luck with all your goals in 2010!
Erin
Congratulations!! The article is great!
Thank you so much for posting this. These are all great tips…some of them, I’ve already taken up (no calorie counting for me, thanks!), and some of them I’m working on (still own a scale…still use it about 2-3 times a week…still working on not letting the number determine whether the day will be good or bad).
I, like many in the blog world, admire the healthy relationship you have with your body and food. I’m working on getting there, myself! Thanks, Angela :-)
I got rid of the scale about a year ago. I literally threw it down the garbage shoot in my apartment building. It was such an invigorating feeling! Do you know what you weigh now? What do you do when you go to the doctor’s office and they want to weigh you? (I kind of freak out LOL)
I hate getting weighed at the doctor’s office too. I always just step on the scale backwards and tell them that I don’t want to know my weight.
You truly deserve to be the woman of the week! It’s a nice article.
Totally agree with all of the things you listed. Instead of looking at how many calories foods have, I look at them for their nutritional benefit.
Thank you so much for this. I look to you for motivation each day as I move toward give up my eating disorder.I’m in the thick of recovery and love reading about what is on the other side!
thank you for this post, really.
This is a great post filled with helpful tips.
And I’ll be watching the GG tonight, too — love the fashion! :D
Like everyone else seems to be saying, thank you for this. As someone who has progressed from eating Lean Cuisines and Sugar-Free Jello, to tempeh and fresh veggies, I can absolutely relate! So much of the “healthy” food in America really isn’t healthy at all; instead, it’s bought in the hopes of being thin. This post is a great reminder that it’s your HEALTH that counts, and if you listen to your body, a healthy weight will follow! Enjoy the rest of your weekend!
It’s kind of interesting that you posted this today as I posted that I’m going to start counting calories again. As much as I’d like to not count calories, I think I need to at this point in my life. I need to get down to a healthier weight(I’m not obese but I’m a little overweight).
I see counting calories as a good way to be aware of what I’m putting in my body and getting back on track to healthy eating. I’m not sure if everyone else views calorie counting in the same light I do, but I find it a little sad that it has such a negative connotation for most in blogworld. I don’t think calorie counting should consume one’s life or be done all the time, but I think calorie counting can be helpful for people trying to lose a few pounds.
That being said, great post! You are an inspiration! I like to think I’m working my way to the things you’ve mentioned. I’ve set goals and I’m trying my hardest to stop comparing myself to others and accepting myself.
I definitely don’t think calorie counting is a bad thing for everyone. I think it depends on your personality. Given that I have an addictive personality, it was not a good thing for myself. For others, it is a good tool. Goodluck with your goals!
I know that calorie counting works GREAT for some people. It worked for me for awhile, but then I started completely obsessing about my “number.” I’ve found I am much happier by eating when I am hungry and focusing on whole, real food as much as possible. But if calorie counting works for YOU, that’s what matters!
It worked for me (I did points–same difference) but I got obsessed. It’s good to know what you’re eating. But what it robs you of (me) eventually is that I felt like I was eating for points/calories and not for my body. I was totally wacked out and trying to eat everything SF/FF and it made me sick. One can only live off of diet food for so long.
this post made me teary lol. i’m sensitive with this subject and can definitely relate. i think the scale part is so true as well as not comparing but just accepting yourself. it’s soooo much easier said than done :O i love your tips though! you’re so candid and honest and i really appreciate your blog for that
The scale for me was a validation everyday that I was being good or bad. I didn’t trust myself not to have it.
I let that go and got my relationship back with myself.
LOVE this topic. I have changed many of the same tips. I stopped weighing myself long ago. It makes such a difference.
Thank you so much for this post. Someday I really hope to be comfortable enough in my own body that I can ditch the scale and stop counting calories. I still obsess over numbers (I like them…) and panic when I think I went over my calorie limit or something to that effect. I am trying to lose a few lbs, so counting calories is helpful in that respect, and I stopped counting a year ago when I hit maintenance, but then I gained it back again due to poor eating habits and large portions. Thus, I am back to counting again until I am in maintenance. When I feel more comfortable with food and my body, I will try to get rid of the scale and stop counting, but it seems like a catch 22 since those things help me feel comfortable (DE talking there…). I know I should be happy with the weight I am at now and with my body overall, but it’s hard. I’m working on it. You keep inspiring me with every post. :)
Yay Ange! I love days like this. I pretty much have done those 5 things to get over my disordered eating and calorie counting as well. I don’t know why we own a scale…no one ever uses it anymore!
Great article/interview!! The writer captured what you’re all about imo! :)
This is a wonderful post! I am slooooowly working my way toward ditching the scale and trusting myself with food. I recently went back to counting because I couldn’t fully let myself go without getting to goal first. It seemed to be looming over me and impeding my progress. But, I am looking forward to living life free of the scale and emotional eating one day :)
I accepted myself for who I am!
I CAN’T WAIT for 24 tonight. Jack is Back :)
JACK IS BACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We watched the season finale from last season…to prep our excitement. I forgot so much that happened!
i love this post! those 5 steps are exactly what i’ve been working toward (slowly but surely). the only other thing i would add is to ditch the feeling of failure if you treat yourself to something you love. i’ve been working on that the longest, and it’s probably the hardest thing to change.
learn to love yourself ladies :)
I agree with Karla’s comment about calorie counting. I think that for some people (and I am one of them) it can be a valuable tool. I have been a vegetarian for 12 years and make a conscious effort to eat whole, unprocessed foods and lots of fruit and veggies. But there is such a thing as too much of a good thing and about a year ago I found myself officially in the “overweight” column and very unhappy with how I looked and felt. By counting calories I was able to lose about 20 lbs, but more importantly I became aware of portion sizes and how much was reasonable compared to before when I would just pile the food on the plate because, hey, it’s all healthy stuff! I eventually stopped counting because I thought I had it down, and little bit of the weight crept back on. I am counting again, as well as focusing more on exercise. I hope not to have to count forever but I do see it’s value.
Thanks for all the inspiration for healthy living!
Exactly. My husband and I just started a fitness challenge. I figured out a calorie range for each of us, and then prepare meals within that range. Of course, we are both amazed at just how much food you can eat if you cut out crap (nachos for him, cookies for me, alcohol for both). Neither of us is overweight, but we needed to get back on track, and refocusing on calories/portion size has helped. We are also weighing ourselves every 1-2 weeks. The upside is there is no guilt associated with it — I just step on the scale, record it, and then do my thing (a huge change for me from two years ago).
It all comes down to this for me: what motivates you? If a number on the scale causes you to beat yourself up, get rid of it. If the number generally is a good gauge for you to focus and work hard at goals, keep it.
It sounds like you overcame a lot! You’re posts are an inspiration and I always enjoy reading them :)
I’m at the point where I have a lot of weight to lose, and although I do want to focus on health verses being thin, I do have to lose weight. And I need a quantifiable way of measuring that. I just feel that I can’t ditch the scale just yet.
Congrats on Woman of the Week!
And such a great post, so very very true. I have been in your shoes, I had disordered eating. I started counting calories when I was about 15 and just NOW (at 21) am I getting past that. Like you said, counting calories can be a good thing, it’s not always bad. But for some of us, it causes a downward spiral. When I started counting calories, I would have this competition with myself to see how few calories I could consume in one day and the number just kept getting lower and lower and lower… not a good thing. And when I started to attempt to overcome my eating disorder and stop counting calories, it would almost give me anxiety attacks not knowing how many calories that I am eating. It was a very slow process. Now, I do not count calories or weigh myself and I have never been happier with my body and myself. I feel healthy and strong, not always starving and almost fragile. I also taught myself about nutrition and about how different foods give us different things. Disordered eating is such an awful thing but it is empowering to know that you CAN overcome it!
I really love this post.
I have a hard time with the weighing. I quit calorie counting but weighing is still hard for me. I’ve suffered from anorexia for years. I recently started weight training and want to get toned and fit. I’m tired of the skinny unhealthy look. Its hard being in a gym setting though with people constantly telling u to cut carbs if u want to get fit and toned. I’m so scared I’ll go back to carb counting. Trying to stay strong!!!
Be strong!! I know it’s hard but you can do it! The skinny unhealthy look is NOT attractive. Nor good for you. You are better than that!
Tossing out the scale is one of my New Year’s goals. When I was suffering from disordered eating, the scale definitely dictated my emotions. A “good” weigh in meant a good day. I soon realized I’m worth way more than what the scale can measure. I used to weigh myself multiple times a day, but now I realize the influence it has on my emotions.
Thanks for posting this. Great job turning your life around Angela! We are all very proud of you.
Angela, great post!
I also struggled with an eating disorder for a big chunk of my life. I was hospitilized for anorexia six years ago and since then, my life has completely turned around.
I decided that I was sick of living in a dark hole and took control of my own happiness. Ever since I decided to LIVE I have been the healthiest and happiest version of myself.
I hope that your blog and the blogs of others who have struggled will help all the girls out there who are going through the same thing.
What a great post. I rarely weigh myself anymore. I used to all the time. But I don’t think that we should let the number on the scale determine how our day is going to pan out for us. I couldn’t even tell you how many calories I eat a day. I am more bothered with if I ate healthy today and did I get enough fruits and vegetables. Just because you are skinny does not mean that you are healthy. When I see pictures of Hollywood celebrities looking really thin, I always think to my, when was the last time that they enjoyed a good meal?
I’ve had to start watching cals again just b/c I wasn’t getting enough for energy levels. I did however ditch the scale. That was torture controlling my days. Great 5 things!
Thank you so much Angela for your blog! I think it is fantastic and I love your positive attitude. I have struggled with eating disorders and have been in recovery for 2 years. It is the hardest thing I have had to do but the most rewarding. I also wanted to say I made your Pumpkin Pie Baked Breakfast Cake and it was Fantastic! My 3 year old loved it as well. I have one question about it though, is it more of a thick pudding texture than a fluffy cake texture?
Thanks for your comments! :)
Yes it is more of a thick texture for sho! :) I think I started calling it cake because of the ‘cake batter’…whatever you call it, it is deeelicious.
This is definitely what I’m trying to do.
Because in the long run it doesn’t matter what you weigh, as long as you are fit and healthy. I need to try to sink this into my head. Because otherwise I get obsessed with getting to a certain weight, maintaining a certain calorie range every day etc.
It’s gonna take some time and effort, but I’m going to get there :)
Reading all these inspirational blogs is definitely helping!
Thank you for this! I have been counting calories for about a year, and while it has been very helpful in that I managed to get my portions under control which in turn helped me lose a bit of weight that really did need to be lost, I have now come to the point where I’m starting to feel that counting calories is hindering me instead of helping me, so your tricks on how to stop are really helpful! I’m training for a marathon now, and I think that’s a change that made me realize that health is much more important than any number on a scale or in a food diary, because now my focus is on eating so I can be a better and stronger runner, instead of becoming a thinner person.
Oh, and thank you for being such an inspiring person! I swear, sometimes I feel like your positive energy is being transmitted through my screen.
wow, this is such a great post! i know it’s a hard road, but i’m glad to see you found things that worked for you. the calorie counting advice is especially helpful because currently, i’m actually required to do it. soon i won’t have to but i know it’ll be hard to break. hopefully your tips can help me :) thanks!
have a lovely day! xox
I was thinking the other day about how GOOD it feels to not eat and be worried if I should’ve eaten MORE, to workout and not be worried if I was doing too much, to walk by the pool in my bathing suit and not hear bon-sighting whispers. It ust feels SO. GOOD.
Calorie counting was the hardest thing to break and like you I started when I was little (like 13??!)One of the biggest things I focused on was an entire week- calories, fat, protein etc. evens itself out through the week, some days will be higher and somedays lower and forcing yourself to eat the same amount every day is ludacris!
Thank you for this post.
Wow it’s crazy to see how many of us young women have dealt with eating disorders. While I was dealing with mine, I felt so alone. It makes me happy to hear positive recovery stories.
I love this post!
I’m going through these issues RIGHT NOW and have been thinking about all of these things quite heavily. I had a baby 16 months ago and I just can’t seem to get rid of the weight. I’ve been obsessing about it for over a year now and all it has done is set me up for failure and binges. What I struggle with is accepting myself NOW and being okay with my weight when I know that I’m not a healthy weight. A lightbulb just went off when I wrote that that maybe I need to accept that it will all be okay. As long as I’m feeding myself healthfully and exercising I will be okay. *Sigh* I just can’t forget that now :-) thank you for writing this.
Oh sweetie, this post really hit me. I’m sort of where you were–trying to ease off my obsession with weight. I lost a ton of weight after being unhealthy and heavy my whole life, but it definitely warped my perceptions.
You are SO spot on with the counting calories. I haven’t -fully- kicked the habit yet, but the progress I’ve made has been so freeing and relieving.
I think for franchise food it’s good to know what’s in it, because there’s so much fiddling. But natural, whole food is nourishing and knows how to really communicate with your body. It’s like sliding away from the wall of an ice rink–scary at first, but ultimately liberating.
Thanks for the thoughtful post!
I applaud you for how far you’ve come!! Back in June I also stopped counting calories and soon after ditched the scale… and I am SO much happier without it!!!
However, I hate the fact that there is still a possibility that if I weighed myself again, the self loathing may come back. Do you feel that if you weighed yourself now, you would be happy no matter what number you saw? Of if you felt in your clothes that you had gained weight, could you be ok with that? Fortunately I feel like I am at a happy weight now, but honestly, if I got on the scale, saw a higher number, and knew my pants fit a bit tighter, I know that the negative feelings would start flooding back.
Just wondering if you have gotten to a point in your life where you would truly be accepting of yourself even if the number on the scale and your jean size truly didn’t have an impact on your happiness…. and if so, please share with us how you did it! Because I think it’s so easy for me to say that I’m at peace with my body now despite not counting calories and weighing myself since I like where I am currently at, but if I knew I was heavier than I would like than I’m not sure if I would be as accepting…
Does this make sense? Sorry if I was rambling. I would love to hear your insight on this! :)
I actually have gained weight here and there over the past couple years- I know this by the way my pants fit. I’m ok with this. As long as I am a healthy weight for my body- and giving my body what it needs each day- I’m fine with that. In all honesty, I am SO much happier than I was maybe 10 pounds lighter…and to me, that is way more important!
I lost 60 lbs but have regained 15 of them. I want to get rid of the scale and calorie counting but it’s like I CANT until I see those 15 lbs come back off. I feel horrible knowing I put them back on when I worked so hard at the weight loss. Next week I will go to get certified as a wellness coach and hope that it will inspire me to look at my own life and weight differently.
I think just being able to accept the way I am now instead of always thinking things would be better if I lost 5 pounds, has really helped me a lot! Great post!
What a great post Angela. I too was obsessed with calories and fat when I was younger. I’m 35 and I feel like I’m finally eating really well and have come to love myself. I use to consume large amounts of diet soda and candy on a daily basis. I ate the candy (like licorice or gummy bears) because it was fat free and I therefore deemed it a good food to eat. Crazy right? Because of my sugar addiction I just had an infected tooth pulled on Tuesday! I was so careless with my body but am on the mend now. I have completely cut out artificial sweetners from my diet and no longer eat candy. I look at food for its nutritional value, not how much fat it has. I feel so much better now at 35 than I did at 25. My weight used to flucutate 20 pounds between summer and winter. Now I stay within a 5 pound range and am sooooooo happy. Thanks for your honesty Angela!! I love love love your blog
Congratulations on the article! You are truly an inspiration to many. :)
This is a great post! I think it is good to focus on being healthy and strong rather than obsess over being thin.
Thanks for posting this! I think my biggest thing is to stop comparing myself to others. You’re right! Being happy with who I am RIGHT NOW rather than who I will be 10 pounds skinnier is so important. Thanks for being so inspiring!
Even though it is so hard I love these 5 things. It really is true, and I think the most important is learning about nutrition. Once you do that all the other stuff sort of falls into place. Thanks for this post!
It is because of posts like this that you were selected as Woman of the Week. You’ve come so far and are a great role model to your readers! :)
I keep my bad snack foods out of the house, otherwise I will just think about them all day, wishing I could eat them, then eventually giving in a eating them, then feeling bad about myself
The shift from wanting to be “skinny” to wanting to be “healthy and fit” is the key.
Thank you for continuing to write posts like this. They are very helpful and inspiring.
And YAY for The Golden Globes! looking forward to them!
Wonderful post!! I agree with you on all of your points. Though, I can’t say that I don’t weigh myself — I don’t obsess over it. I wish that a few friends of mine would read this post and take all of your points into considering! :)
I don’t weigh myself either-we do not have a scale and I go by how my clothes fit and how I feel.
I also never come downn on myself if I ate too much-guilt is not healthy.