Feel Good In Your Body: Visualization

by Angela (Oh She Glows) on September 15, 2009

I think it is time for some positive visualization to help us feel good about our bodies.

All too often, those negative thoughts can creep into our minds and get the best of us.

I love this book because it has very quick and simple tricks for boosting my body image.


Here is another one of my favourites that I did last night (you can click to enlarge):


I love this part:

“What if someone were to tell you that some day someone will fall in love with that special spot on you?”


This visualization exercise was so fun to do!

Has anyone ever told you that they loved a part of you that you always thought was a flaw?

One that sticks out for me is my arms.

I used to hate my arms because when I was in middle school a boy I knew teased me about them and told me that they were very muscular (which I interpreted negatively). He would make comments like, ‘Holy cow look at those pipes!’ and it made me very insecure.

This comment overshadowed how I felt about my arms for YEARS.

That is, until I met Eric.

Shortly after Eric and I started dating he confessed to me that he loved my arms and he thought they were sexy. He said they are one of his favourite things about my body. I was absolutely shocked and it changed the way I viewed my arms for ever! I now see the beauty in my arms that I never saw before.

This visualization exercise is great though because it reminds us that even if we don’t have outside validation, we can find it from within.

What about you?


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natalie September 15, 2009 at 2:16 pm

I’ve always hated my stomach and felt like it was my the worst. Last month we were playing the newly wed game and we were asked to write down what our favorite parts on each other were…I thought my husband might say my legs or something like that….but to my surprise it was my stomach! WHAT!!! I couldnt believe it. I have been feeling better and better about my stomach lately! I love these exercises thanks for sharing!


Tay September 15, 2009 at 2:17 pm

Fabulous, I love it. It’s almost like how so many women hate their “bellies” and hips if they’re too large. But when/if they get pregnant, those are the great strong features that help support another human being’s life. I’m sure then you’ll be thankful, and your husband will love them :-)


Angela (Oh She Glows) September 15, 2009 at 2:28 pm

Thats very true ladies…Ive had many guy friends say that they love women’s ‘soft’ stomachs. It just goes to show you that what we see in the media isn’t always true!


Cassi September 15, 2009 at 2:37 pm

What a great exercise. My husband tells me stuff all the time, that I’m like , “Really?! I always hated X about my body.”


Sarah @ The Foodie Diaries September 15, 2009 at 2:38 pm

Great post, Angela! Just yesterday, my friend and I were talking about how we have such muscular legs on our way home from yoga. We realized that, after putting our bodies through 90 minutes of a challenging activity, we should be thanking those muscular legs instead of trash-talking them! Maybe we were just on a yoga high :)


Nicole September 15, 2009 at 2:48 pm

For the longest time, I hated my freckles! I even used to try to cover them with heavy make-up. Everyone always tells me that my freckles are cute and make me, me!

I learned to embrace them and I love them now. I always get excited when they get more pronounced in the summer :)


Kayzilla September 15, 2009 at 2:59 pm

That visualization technique was really really fun!

My boyfriend is an all around big fan of my body. There’s nothing he does not love. I tell him about the insecurity I have about my stomach and he says to me “Why? There’s nothing wrong with it, it’s really cute!”

For every one negative I can think about my body, my boyfriend shoots back with 5 positives. I’ve even started doing the same thing to myself! A positive influence that you trust, whether it’s a lover, a friend, or a family member, goes a long way! :)


Salina September 15, 2009 at 11:07 pm

Wow — Kayzilla — Your Bf is a keeper! The world needs more of that kind of man. Men that not only love all your so-called “quirky bits” — but voice it out loud, and often, how wonderful you really are! *sigh*


Gillian September 15, 2009 at 3:06 pm

I go through many phases of disliking my body. I remember one summer when I was especially hard on myself, and an older woman I grew up with (who at 80 has a fit, healthy, amazing body) said something about me having the body of a goddess. To this day when I am struggling with poor body image I think back to that.


Meredith (Pursuing Balance) September 15, 2009 at 3:07 pm

Wonderful! This is so true!


Mara @ What's For Dinner? September 15, 2009 at 3:19 pm

My fiance tells me all the time that he loves my “squish” and that he doesn’t want me to “get so skinny that I’m hard”.


Faith September 15, 2009 at 3:31 pm

I love the statement: “What if someone were to tell you that some day someone will fall in love with that special spot on you?”

It really helps me put things in perspective!


Paige @ Running Around Normal September 15, 2009 at 3:41 pm

What an awesome thought! Great post:)


Kristen September 15, 2009 at 3:42 pm

What a great post. For me, it’s always been my legs. I was on a professional jumprope team from childhood through my teens, and developed very muscular legs as a result. As an adult, I’ve often cursed my “big calves” and “thick thighs.” But one day, a woman stopped me in Starbucks. I was wearing workout shorts having just come from the gym, and she asked, “Young lady, where did you get those awesome legs? I’d kill for legs like that! What do you do for exercise?” I was taken aback my her compliment. This body part I had always hated was actually coveted by a stranger! Ever since then, I’ve seen my legs as powerful, sculpted, and beautiful. They’ve carried me through a marathon, two half marathons, and a 9-hour endurance hike. They are a blessing, not a curse.


JessicaR September 15, 2009 at 3:44 pm

Yep! I have scoliosis, and although I had ten vertebrae fused when I was 14 to correct a lot of the curve, my rib cage still remains very twisted on my right side (awful rib hump that gives me a terrible winged scapula). I’ve always hated it, and although no one I dated ever made any bad comments about it, my current boyfriend is the only one who has ever said he thought it was adorable. He said it makes me unique, and it makes him love me even more. Aww :)

(P.S. I agree with Eric… your arms are awesome!)


Nicole September 15, 2009 at 4:30 pm

I love that you posted about this! Thank you! Sometimes, I just need to be reminded that although I may not think that I’m perfect, my husband does! I am way too hard on myself sometimes, why?! There is no reason to be!


Katie September 15, 2009 at 4:30 pm

I hate my stomach, a big mole on my leg, my skin, my arm flappage and my height ;) Long enough list for you? I love my muscular legs and the blisters on my feet they show I’m athletic and all I am about. Unfortunately I’m single so no idea if anyone could like my flaws. I can say at my skinniest guys didn’t like it I was a disordered eater and trust me the skeletor look is not one they like and I got more comments about that then anything.


Nabeela September 15, 2009 at 4:48 pm

Although I’d love to say the one thing that I really dislike about my body gets positive comments from everyone else…it is not so….sigh.
But I try and focus on the other good things I have. I love my abs and I love my arms and legs. That carries me through any negativity I feel about my “bad” body part.


[email protected] September 15, 2009 at 5:59 pm

I would have to say my stomach too. Also, I feel just ugh and self conscious when I am in my glasses and dressed down with zero makeup, but my husband thinks I look great that way.


AGS September 15, 2009 at 6:52 pm

Having someone tell you something is great, when you think it’s horrible is nice. . . but I just don’t think it happens that often. I feel like that book is just being theoretical (“what if. . .”). I don’t think your personal demons go away with one nice comment.


Salina September 15, 2009 at 11:21 pm

I agree to an extent with you AGS — The past 18months has been hell for me — recovering from PCOS, miscarrying a child late in a pregnancy, loosing my two best friends and subsequently 12 months of emotional eating certainly took their toll.. I put on more weight in those 12 months than i feel like i can lose! And my fiance is supportive in his own way, but not a helpful way for me.

I think anyone has a beauty about them and i feel that it is our job to let people know when we see that beauty. A famous philosopher said “you only get what you give” — Sure, I don’t think self-image insecurities go away with one nice comment — but imagine what a hunderd nice comments could do?! Although I think if you are battling some tough personal demons, that seeing a counsellor really does go a long way — and the nice comments are just that — nice.


AGS September 16, 2009 at 9:28 am

Salina — such a tough road. I’m sorry to hear about that. It took me about three years to recover from some pretty difficult stuff. . . but recover, I did.

I *do* believe comments can go a long way to make you feel good about yourself — or even to see something differently. But deep insecurities often take time — and like you said, sometimes even some more organized help — to deal with.


Rachel September 15, 2009 at 7:01 pm

This was a really great post. It just made me think, pause for a moment, realize, and smile.


RunToTheFinish September 15, 2009 at 7:23 pm

oh i like that book, i’m going to hunt it down!


Spotty Prep September 15, 2009 at 7:49 pm

Aww so sweet! I love this post :)


Lauren September 15, 2009 at 8:26 pm

I am also self conscious about my arms. I try so hard to improve the look of them because I know they look so skinny and weak. The other day, I had a few people comment on how “buff” my arms appeared and I can’t tell you how great that made me feel! After a year of hard-core weight lifting, it’s finally paying off!

What a great exercise! I need to do this one more often.


angieinatlanta September 15, 2009 at 8:35 pm

I used to hate my “bubble butt” and curves but my boyfriend LOVES them…and slowly, but surely, I’m starting to see them as sexy as well! They’re womanly and I’m embracing that!


dizzy September 15, 2009 at 9:25 pm

Wow, I had/have the exact same ‘arm’ problem! When I was younger, a boy made the same comment and since then, I have always paid more attention to my arms. I have always thought they were too big. This is slowly fading and I can for sure say that this post helped! Thanks!


Courtney September 15, 2009 at 9:41 pm

Eric is such a sweetheart. I am so happy for you two!


Averie (LoveVeggiesAndYoga) September 15, 2009 at 9:51 pm

My entire life, people say to me, “Boy you are a BIG GIRL!” I am nearly 5’11” so yes, i am TALL you freaks, tall :) I am by no means “big”…I am a lean n mean yogi machine, check my bloggie :) Anyway when people say to my 2.5 yr old daughter who is also really tall already too, she sure is a big girl, I always cringe, correct them, and wish people would not confuse the words tall and big. For those that are tall but not big, it gives us a complex! Thanks for this post.


Gina September 15, 2009 at 11:11 pm

Thanks for the positive encouragement!


Suze September 16, 2009 at 3:32 am

I’d always considered my large breasts as my only truly attractive feature. Everything else seemed either very ordinary or a flaw, like my little flabby tummy lump or my jiggly bottom or my broad shoulders. My current partner, however, loves all these things (and much more) about my body, and it has made me see them in a much more positive light.

I do sometimes wonder whether I’m simply replacing one set of body image standards (society’s) with another (my partner’s) but then I remember that there is much more to his love than simply seeing me as a body-object to be admired, and that I will carry these positive feelings about my body onwards even if we were to break up.


Marina September 16, 2009 at 6:10 am

I don’t like my legs and calves, still don’t. But I didn’t like my small breasts, but I learned to accept them. I guess my boyfriend helped with that realization :D I think I still have time for my feminine features to develop, with pregnancy and everything, and they’ll look ok when I get older.


MizFit September 16, 2009 at 6:31 am

it is so trite but it took aging for me to just SHED IT ALL.
to realize that none of us are guaranteed tomorrow and I would choose to regret nothing.
and I would TOTALLY REGRET having “not lived fully” because of loathing how prominent my *nose* is on my face :)

I love being 40.


Morgan (lifeafterbagels) September 16, 2009 at 12:01 pm

Angela – great post. Funny enough, the only part on my body I feel gross about is my stomach, and my BF loves it, I should really start listening to him and stop being so hard on myself.


Liz September 16, 2009 at 1:53 pm

Sooo positive! You really know how to make us girls feel better about ourselves.


Beth @ CrossBorderCravings September 16, 2009 at 2:04 pm

I used to always hate my hips – very curvy! The first time a guy told me he liked them I was shocked! I have since learned to love them – they make me look like a girl :O).


Jen (Running With Cake) September 16, 2009 at 3:32 pm

Thank you for posting about the new book. I could use some inspiration right now! For a long time, I didn’t like my legs/thighs. Thought they were too chunky. But, one day, someone told me I had “runner’s legs” and I been happy with them ever since!


Alex September 16, 2009 at 4:34 pm

It amazes me that women have such a generally inaccurate view of what men want in a woman’s figure.

Time and time again, I hear guys talking most enthusiastically about the parts that give us our womanly shape: bums, bellies, breasts, hips, etc.

I think that, in the end, we fall in love with whatever our loved one looks like, so really all shapes are wonderful and desirable.

I love that my boyfriend is a regular outloud reminder for me of my woman-curves, but nothing beats telling (and beleiving!) yourself!!!


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