Birthday Flop!

by Angela (Oh She Glows) on August 12, 2009


Last night Eric and I went out for his birthday. Here we are prior to leaving for a late dinner. Do you notice a certain shirt I am wearing?? Yup, that is the same flower shirt I was thinking of buying a while back (remember back in March when I brought you into the change room with me?). I actually found it on the sale rack 75% off the other week!!!! :) Sometimes it pays to wait.


I ended up taking him to a place called Oliver and Bonacini. We had never been there before, and in the spirit of trying new restaurants, I booked us a reservation.

Little did we know we were not going to have a good experience at this restaurant! :(


To our disappointment, the patio was full so we opted for a booth in the bar area.


Decisions, decisions…


They brought us bread to the table, which I let Eric have (he was starving and about to chew his arm off!).


I ordered 6oz. of Sauvignon Blanc and Eric a beer.


Then it came time to order our apps and main course and this is where the fun started.

I asked the waiter if the vegetarian plate could be made vegan (there was some soufflé in it with egg whites) and he said he would check with the chef. So he came back and told me that the chef could prepare me a vegan plate and that it would be a ‘surprise’. I was like, sure…no problem! Sometimes I like when chef’s can just bring our their skills and whip up something really cool.

And then the waiter starts asking me questions about being a vegan. He goes, “Yea I have two friends that are vegan. You know, you should be a vegetarian but not a vegan. My friends started to waste away from being vegan. You can be a vegetarian, but you just shouldn’t be a vegan. It’s just not good.”

I know, right? What does someone say to that?

I said that while it is challenging it can be done properly is one is aware of what their body needs. I also said that vegetarians can be unhealthy too if they are not getting an adequate diet. I really had to bite my tongue though because I wanted to tell this guy, a la Stephanie Tanner, HOW RUDE! I mean how can you be a waiter and tell someone that how they are eating is WRONG? I was so miffed that someone could be so ignorant!

He went on and on too! Like this conversation didn’t end.

Oh and then he got on about the honey part. He goes, ‘Oh honey, I just don’t understand. It’s honey, come on!’

Obviously, I know that many people don’t have issues with honey or understand why that it isn’t vegan. I was like that too when I first started out. And then I made Glo Bakery completely vegan by removing the honey from all products. It doesn’t bother me that this waiter has a personal issue with veganism, what bothered me is that he was completely rude to me and left a very bad taste in my mouth, especially on an occasion that was so happy and celebratory. I just brushed it off and we carried on with dinner and just ignored the jerk.

My salad was nothing special. Spinach and mushrooms with vinaigrette.


Eric had Caesar salad that he said was good:

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Then my surprise vegan platter came out and I will admit it was pretty interesting…

  • Watermelon and tomatoes in a vinagrette
  • EXTREMELY garlicky hummus on bread
  • Vegetables
  • White bean puree croquettes
  • White rice (in back left)

Where do I start? First I will voice a couple complaints:

  • The vegetables were dripping in oil
  • The food was heavily salted (I mean heavily)
  • The croquettes were deep fried

It bothers me when chef’s think that they need to douse vegetables in oil and salt to make them taste good. I don’t know about you, but if I was cooking for a vegan, I probably wouldn’t deep fry anything either.

The hummus bread had huge chunks of garlic in it. Way too much garlic. I felt like I was fuming after one bite! I ate half the bread, all the rice, all the vegetables, 2 croquettes, and all the watermelon and tomatoes. I was stuffed at the end. :)

Eric had a lamb burger and fries…


Eric didn’t like the burger and he said the fries were really salty (I tried one and they were, much like my food).

All and all, it was a really disappointing experience. Don’t you just hate when you take someone out for a special dinner and it is a flop?? I felt so bad!!!

We made the best of it though…

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After dinner, Eric dragged me to see GI Joe for a late show at 10:20pm. Let me just be brief and say this- it is 2 hours of my life that I will never ever get back. ;) Horrible. The acting, the cinematography, the script. Everything. Dear God.

And then on the highway on the way home, we got stuck in traffic on the 401 for 40 minutes! So we didn’t get home until 1am. I reclined my chair as I was so tired.


It was sort of just ‘one of those nights’, ya know? I still feel so badly because I feel like Eric didn’t have a good birthday. :(

I tried to make the best of it by being goofy and silly after dinner though…


Sadly, this restaurant experience reminded us why we don’t go out to eat. It is expensive and we can often make much better food at home for so much less. Live and learn I guess!

I am sorry for the downer post guys! I would never hide my true feelings on this blog though. And I would never pretend that everything is fine and dandy when it was not.

What you see is what you get! Bad experiences happen to the best of us, right?!


This morning Eric’s mom is working on the alterations for my bridesmaid dress. Let’s hope we get this thing fitting a bit better!

Off to bake…


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Laura August 12, 2009 at 10:26 am

Sorry that the dinner wasn’t what you had hoped! Sounds like it was still a special date night though. My boyfriend hates eating out, for the same reason that you guys usually don’t – we can cook more exciting things at home, for less money and with more love in the recipe :-)

And LOL Zak wants to go see GI Joe with me too… now I know to talk him outta that one! Haha!


Kelly August 12, 2009 at 10:28 am

Aw, that’s really unfortunate! I’m sorry you had a less than stellar experience… that waiter was totally out of line and generally horrible at his job! Good for you for trying to make the best of it. And you know what? I bet that you and Eric will remember this particular birthday flop years down the road, and it’ll probably seem more comical then! Well, except for Mr. Rudewaiterface. That’s just, well, rude!


Amanda August 12, 2009 at 10:30 am

Ah that is too bad!! I always get myself stressed out about my boyfriend’s birthday because I want everything to be perfect! Through your blog posts and actions throughout the day (and the whole year, I’m sure), Eric knows how loved he is! You could always do a “do over” and make him a nice home-cooked birthday meal – no rude waiters invited :)


Jess August 12, 2009 at 10:32 am

That’s too bad that dinner wasn’t a success! I always have a huge anxiety attack when we go out to dinner (well, I’ve only been out once since being vegan, but my sister invited us out tonight for her birthday and I’m freaking out already). I do not live in a vegan-friendly town by any means. I would rather just stay home and cook something delicious so I will know every ingredient! I just get so skeptical that the restaurant staff won’t know what vegan means and I’ll eat something that I don’t want to! Why does it have to be so hard?


Michelle Gay August 12, 2009 at 10:33 am

That is so annoying going out and not having it go as you would have liked. I was going to warn you about the GI movie…but I thought ‘I don’t know what she likes, maybe she’ll like it’…well…

However, you got to spend time with someone that you love..and he is one lucky guy.


Angela (Oh She Glows) August 12, 2009 at 10:35 am

haha Trust me I read all the bad reviews about GI Joe (And Eric too), but he was set on seeing it regardless since he grew up watching it as a kid. I knew I was ‘in for it’…but birthday boy decides! lol


brandi August 12, 2009 at 10:36 am

aw, I hate when that happens! Glad you two made the most of it – the best thing is that you got to spend his birthday together. AND those pancakes sure looked good! at least you started the day off on a good note :)


Jennie {in Wonderland} August 12, 2009 at 10:40 am

That really sucks… I really don’t like rude servers – it can put a downer on the evening. James used to be a server, so he’s even more critical of them – we’ve only had a few bad ones – one girl who actually pulled up a chair and SAT with us during dinner — we had to request some privacy. UNBELIEVABLE!!!

I also don’t enjoy salty foods or deep fried foods – it just ruins what could otherwise be a healthy, nourishing meal! I think some chefs think that vegetables are boring and they have to “jazz them up” by drenching them in butter or oil. Yuck.

I’m sure Eric loved just being with you — he seems like such a happy person anyway, and you two look like you have tons of fun together. It’s nice :-)

PS: LOVE your shirt. Where did you get it?


Cait (Cait's Plate) August 12, 2009 at 10:45 am

Aw, I’m so sorry this was such a lowsy experience! Poor Eric on his birthday! But at least he got the company of his awesome wife, right??

I honestly can’t believe that waiter! That’s unbelieveable!


Micco August 12, 2009 at 10:49 am

Even though your birthday outing was sort of a flop, the post where he celebrated with friends and ate pancakes and whatnot – that sounded like it went over great! So while a mixed bag, the birthday doesn’t sound like a total flop, and hey – who gets to have reasons their spouse loves them broadcast on a well-known blog for their birthday?

vegan pro tip: when I go out to eat, especially with omnis, I usually go Asian. (Well, except Indian. I’ve had a couple positive vegan Indian experiences, but for the most part, I’m pretty convinced I keep getting served milk. Pacific Island food, on the other hand: sooooo vegan-friendly.) Mediterranian is usually pretty vegan-friendly, too!


Sana August 12, 2009 at 10:49 am

Oh no!!!! Grr- how rude!!! Sometimes you just have to make the best of such things and you did!


Ruthie August 12, 2009 at 10:52 am

I hope you did not give the waiter a big tip! Sometimes people are just downright rude, maybe thinking that they are doing you a favor by talking up a storm about something they think they are knowledgeable about.

About two years ago, there was an article in the Washington Post Food section that basically said, if you want to eat healthy, you have to cook it yourself!!! I find it so disturbing that restaurants nowadays still serve unhealthy food, even when you order something that seems “healthy” or vegan.


Eve August 12, 2009 at 10:52 am

That’s too bad about the restaurant. First of all, the waiter was completely out of line. And it’s so true, a lot of the time going out is just not worth it! If I were you I would call the manager to tell them about the waiter. At least you made the best out of the night! And you looked great :)


Katherine August 12, 2009 at 10:54 am

You win some, you lose some.

Long ago in our dating lives, we were celebrating an anniversary and we went out to a fancy restaurant for the first time ever. We even had to buy my now hubby a tie because he didn’t own one.

We were stuck for an HOUR in traffic. Lost our reservations when we got there and the place was packed.

Finally sat down to eat, the food was in very small portions and the hubby didn’t like it.

Went to the bathroom to change afterwards (it was winter and we wanted to see the light display in the huge garden out back) and I DROPPED my purse (includes ID, money, camera, and cell phone) all in the TOILET!!!! I had to fish em out with my hand. Camera no longer worked and I had no pics of our special evening. Once I finally got out of the bathroom, we started to walk around the gardens and we said to eachother “You know, this fancy stuff isn’t working out for us, let’s go to Dairy Queen for dessert.” And we went off to get ice cream. Much better.

So ya, you win some. you lose some.


Danielle C. August 12, 2009 at 10:55 am

Ugh that is really too bad about the waiter (and that the food wasn’t very good). I probably would have said something to the manager, I’m sure you aren’t the first person he’s been rude to.

On the plus side you looked amazing, I love the outfit. :)


Bree August 12, 2009 at 10:59 am

After being a server for many years, I can not believe the guy said that to you! I would sometimes wonder about special requests (now I know more about nutrition and special needs and wouldn’t think twice), but would never make comments like that or tell someone they are wrong.

We go out to eat less and less these days, too. It’s true – you can never really be sure what you are getting unless you make it yourself.

Sorry the birthday night was less then stellar :(


Paige August 12, 2009 at 11:00 am

That waiter sucks! You definitely should have pulled out a “How RUDE!”

sorry it didn’t go as planned. At least now you know you guys have it right with cooking in and saving money!:D


Jenn (Eating Bender) August 12, 2009 at 11:07 am

Ugh, so sorry about your restaurant experience! Happy belated birthday to Eric…I’m sure he was very happy that you put so much time into making his day special, even if the experience and food was not-so-hot. Thanks for the heads up on G.I. Joe – I’m going to avoid that one at all costs!

I always knew what you see is what you get ;) That’s why I love ya!


Kristen August 12, 2009 at 11:10 am

I think you should send them an email about the experience. Their website has contact information. If you found the food too salty, I’m sure others do too…but mostly, that is terrible service. Yes, waiters are people and they have opinions, but at my job, I don’t put my opinion into what I’m writing, so they shouldn’t be lecturing customers about what they are eating. I am a firm believer in giving companies feedback (good and bad) and this one definitely deserves a little feedback!

Sorry his birthday didn’t turn out how you hoped!


Pam August 12, 2009 at 11:11 am

So sorry you both had such a bad experience on such a special day! Glad you stayed on a positive note and could spend some time together!

Happy days!


Jessica August 12, 2009 at 11:21 am

Ahhh the flower shirt! I loved it so I’m glad you got a great deal on it :)

OUCH at the waiter’s comments. I would have politely informed him that his friends obviously didn’t know how to nourish properly in their vegan adventure.
I didn’t know honey was nonvegan! It makes sense now that I think about it though!
Sounds like you guys kept a positive attitude. My boyfriend and I will often go out and not like our meal, but hey – aint no thang!
So I’m glad you still had a positive attitude and you were able to look past the negatives on such a special day!
My bf wants to take me to GI Joe too (lol I accidentally typed out joke instead of joe) and now i’m scared! i thought it even looked good, the leading actor is cute, but now im worried! lol!


EatingRD August 12, 2009 at 11:22 am

How terrible! I hate bad restaurant experiences because they are so expensive, and you’re right, most of the time we can make much better things at home. What a jerk! I’m so sorry you had to listen to that, some people just don’t realize what they are saying. I would definitely send a complaint to the restaurant, that is unacceptable on so many levels. You guys still rock!


Meghan August 12, 2009 at 11:24 am

Soooo frustrating when people challenge what you eat!! As a vegan I encounter this quite often; but I’ve never had a server at a restaurant treat me this way! Ridiculous! At least you can use the power of consumerism and tell your friends about your less-than-stellar experience :)


Jess August 12, 2009 at 11:28 am

That stinks that your dinner wasn’t all you had hoped for! I’ll avoid GI Joe – thanks for the honest opinion!


Brandi C August 12, 2009 at 11:28 am

Life is not about not having storms, but learning how to dance in rain…..Which you CLEARLY know how to do :)
That server made my blood boil Angie! I wish I would have been there and you wouldn’t have needed to say one word…….BC I would have let him have it!
Love You and I’m sure Eric enjoyed just being in your presense! What a Lucky Guy! (You’re lucky too, lol.)


Elizabeth August 12, 2009 at 11:28 am

You know, people can have their opinions about veganism and share it on their own time. But when they’re in a professional environment, that is not the time to spout off nutritional opinions to their customers. Would he lecture obese people about fat grams? Or the dangers of aspartame to someone who is ordering diet soda? Or harangue someone who is going outside to smoke a cigarette? No. Because their choices are THEIR business in that context.

That waiter was totally inappropriate and I hope you complain to his manager.


Emily August 12, 2009 at 11:34 am

Did you complain about the service? If not, you should! Oliver and Bonacini have several places in the GTA (including Canoe, possibly the most expesive resterant in the city) and are VERY concerned with their service. Usually it is amazing and they are known for being one of the 50 best employers in Canada.
I bet if you complained to the manager they would take it very seriously and might comp you another meal out!


Kristen @ Simply Savor August 12, 2009 at 11:35 am

I’m sorry you guys didnt have the best dinner experience, but I’m sure Eric had a great bday spending time with you!

Also wanted to thank you bc I made Maple+Blueberry Infused Pumpkin Spice Pancakes today using your Swirl Pancakes as an inspiration!–I think I need a little more practicing on the “swirling” (haha) but they came out great! Thanks for the recipe! :)


Morgan August 12, 2009 at 11:35 am

Booo that’s sad about dinner. I regularly have the same problem with even being vegetarian. Everyone seems to have a comment or opinion about it, and it’s usually offensive. I don’t go around asking people what’s wrong with them because they eat meat. Good for you for being so polite!


lauren (food shoes booze) August 12, 2009 at 11:43 am

I just love your blog…. but i might love that top more (love the flower, you know you do too) Glad you made the most of the evening! :)


Jenn August 12, 2009 at 11:43 am

Ugh, that’s really awful. I hate it when dinner is a downer. For this very reason, my husband and I:
1. rarely go out to eat
2. stick to our tried and true favorites when we do

I hate getting excited to try a new place (and I so would have to go to O&B!!!) and then be absolutely deflated by the end of the evening.

I agree with a previous poster. You should definitely write a letter of “concern” to the restaurant management.


Yogini August 12, 2009 at 11:44 am

I’m sorry to hear about your dining experience. As a vegan myself I have had to deal with similar situations it sucks. It sounds like you had fun and made the best of it anyway. I love that shirt where did you get it?


Lainie August 12, 2009 at 11:45 am

What a rude waiter; how frustrating!!! It looks like you two made the most of your meal and Eric’s birthday though. As annoying as experiences like that are, it gives you something to look back on and laugh it. As always, beautiful, beautiful pictues of you and your honey.


Emily (A Nutritionist Eats) August 12, 2009 at 11:45 am

Such a bummer and such awful customer service for the waiter to be telling you that stuff!!


Juicy Jessy August 12, 2009 at 11:49 am

what a pitty! i like eating out, and most of the time i can find something healthy. the thing i love most about eating out though, is not having to do the dishes in the end ;-) it might help when my boyfriend and me move in together, we will definitely buy a dish washer!! ;-)


Alex August 12, 2009 at 11:50 am

Aw, that’s sucks that the night was a bit of a bust.

I hate when that happens, especially when there’s a lot of build-up for a more special occasion.

Next time you go out, maybe check some reviews to make sure you don’t repeat the yucky experience.

This site: is awesome for checking out the best, well, anything in TO, and it provides great reviews and user comments.

Better luck next time, Angela! You’ll always have swirly pancakes to fall back on, right?


Pam at Highway to Health August 12, 2009 at 11:54 am

That stinks about your dinner! I hate when we have terrible experiences like that. I just can’t believe the waiter was that rude to you!


brittany meenach August 12, 2009 at 11:56 am

I’M so sorry that you guys had to go through that, good thing Eric has the best gift ever, you! You guys are a perfect couple, and I wish you well. I also hate eating out, due to the above and my parents and fam, don’t get it at all, so there is always tension. Have a great day.


britt August 12, 2009 at 11:59 am

i hate to hear that the birthday dinner/movie didn’t turn out as planned. i love eating out but always hate when the food isn’t up to par. and that waiter, there are no words…


Beth @ CrossBorderCravings August 12, 2009 at 12:05 pm

sorry to hear things didn’t go as planned!! that vegan platter sure looks…interesting :O)


Katie August 12, 2009 at 12:08 pm

What did you get Eric for his birthday??

Just think about all the fun you’ll get out of this inside joke that you share. Just mention the place or his birthday and I’m sure you can make it funny somehow, even if it means mocking the waiter ;)


Angela (Oh She Glows) August 12, 2009 at 12:11 pm

Thanks for your comments!

I think I will contact the restaurant and complain…

The shirt is from Bebe…it was out in March though, so I think it is pretty much obsolete unless they come out with new colours which they often do for popular shirts. :)

I got Eric 2 new paris of sneakers, 2 t-shirts, and large spoons (its an inside joke that he always complains about how we don’t have enough large spoons for his cereal! haha)


*Andrea* August 12, 2009 at 12:19 pm

gah bummer. you looked gorg though ;)


Sheri August 12, 2009 at 12:19 pm

So sorry you dinner was not what you hoped it would be. But thanks for being honest about it! I have had bad restuarnt experiences and they suck! But it looks like you still had a great date!

Thanks about the warning for GI Joe my hubby wants to see that I may just have to sway him another way! ;)


Katy August 12, 2009 at 12:29 pm

Yeah, as a former server and current vegan, I would DEFINITLY complain about that kind of comment. So inappropriate!
My meal last night was awesome… but only because of you! I made my bf and I the choco-coco swirl pancakes and they were soooooo good. I totally failed at making the swirl (more of an “o”) but whatevs. At the end of the meal he asked me where I got the recipe and I said “its all thanks to Angela at” and he was like “cheers to Angela at oh she glows”
and then we water-glass cheersed you. :)


Ariel August 12, 2009 at 12:29 pm

Haha Oakville place! I’ve heard that restaurant is bad news from other people too…


Kristilyn August 12, 2009 at 12:43 pm

Aww, that sucks that you guys had such a bad experience. Interesting what the chef came up with … does he know what vegan means?

I’m not surprised that GI Joe was horrible. They’ve had so much hype for the movie, but I wasn’t too impressed by the trailers. Movies are one thing the Husband and I just don’t go to anymore, either, unless we really want the BIG SCREEN experience or if we have a coupon from someone (my parents give them out at Christmas). People talking and crunching on food, the people who always kick your chair, etc., etc.

I hope you guys have a better night tonight!



Jenn Eats Nutritiously Now August 12, 2009 at 1:02 pm

Sorry it was a bad experience, but I’m sure he really appreciated that you wanted it to be a great night for him! You even went to a boring movie for him. Now that’s love!!


Natalie M. August 12, 2009 at 1:31 pm

Awww… I’m sorry things didn’t go better for you guys… but I’m sure Eric was just happy to be with you no matter where you guys were…

you’re a hell of a wife… GI-JOE?!? LOL wow Angela… a trooper indeed.


Laura August 12, 2009 at 1:48 pm

I’m sorry about the overall experience, but you are right, that is real life. The blouse is gorgeous!


eliza August 12, 2009 at 1:52 pm

That waiter was totally inappropriate, and it is too bad the food was too salty. I would complain politely with the manager, you probably will get something for free!

I’m wondering what other’s experiences have been re: eating out. When I worked managing at a restaurant/inn we usually appreciated it when people called ahead to notify us of their allergies/diet requirements. It makes it easier for the place to serve you some tasty eats if they can anticipate your presence.


Tay August 12, 2009 at 1:57 pm

Awww I’m so sorry that it wasn’t the complete experience that you wanted. But it’s the company that TRULY matters and it seems like you really knew that since you tried to make the best of the situation and have fun with it! :-) That’s your glow shining through!!

To second your rant, I too hate when they feel they need to douse everything in butter and oil. And I mean everything. Things you wouldn’t even think would need it. I want to taste the FRESH VEGGIES and not the SALTED OIL!!


Sana August 12, 2009 at 2:08 pm

Aaaww, I am sure Eric really appreciated the effort you went to for him. I do think its quite rude that the waiter could not be more open minded about your eating choices. I do agree with you though, I have been to many restaurants where when I asked them not to use oil in my food or asked for dressing on the side, the waiters were rude.


Charlotte Leonard August 12, 2009 at 2:28 pm

I bet Eric still had an amazing birthday because he got to spend it with the love of his life :)!!

I’m so glad that you tell it like it really is Ange, something I notice is that bloggers often don’t get real with their readers and pretend to have nothing but happy experiences. I think that everyone has had one of those nights and you shouldn’t have to always spin it in a positive way, because it was a negative experience!

Nothing gets my blood pressure up like extra oil, butter, or salad dressing on my food… eeeew! All you can say is WHY???? LOL


Holly August 12, 2009 at 2:43 pm

I had to laugh at your comment about the spoons! My guy is the exact. same. way. He eats his cereal with soup spoons, haha!

Also- when nights like this happen, I often times flip it around in my head and realize it’s a night/birthday you guys are *certainly* not going to forget :o) I used to go to a lot of concerts and when it rained during them, I started to realize, wow, I will never forget this experience. It changes your whole perspective!


Sharon August 12, 2009 at 2:53 pm

Was this in Oakville? I’ve heard plenty of bad reviews about the service at Oliver & Bonacini…bad hiring manager I guess.

I agree with calling ahead when dining out with special requests. Then the kitchen knows about ahead of time and is ready instead of having it thrown at them in the middle of a dinner rush. A friend of mine has celiac and always will notify the restaurant and usually is happy with the meals.

Why are chefs these days OBSESSED with salt? I swear everything I order is doused with it!


Maureen August 12, 2009 at 3:05 pm

There is nothing worse that the oh Honey unless it is oh Honey calm down. I am with you on the cost of eating out when you are Vegan there is not much to choose from on most menus. I think I am going to start eating before I go out with friends in future then I can order a small salad or soup and save my money and my taste buds from bad food.


Susan August 12, 2009 at 3:34 pm

Aww, that’s too bad :( Funny how you can go to these fancy restaurants and have a bad experience, then go to these dungy hole-in-the-wall places and have amazing food. I hope you gave that guy a crappy tip! I get really annoyed when people criticize the way I eat, especially when they’re complete strangers. I totally understand how that irked you.

Ha, I expect to be dragged to GI Joe soon. Thanks for the heads up :P


Faith August 12, 2009 at 3:39 pm

I’m so sorry that the waiter was so ignorant…I really don’t understand how people can act like that. At least you got to spend the night with your man on his special day!


Kristina August 12, 2009 at 4:37 pm

So sorry to hear you had a bad experience at Oliver & Bonnicini, as it is one of my favourite restaurants! And welcome to my town :o) (looks like you were in Oakville).

Please give it another try, but only after you have complained to the manager for both the food and service. Heck they may even invite you back ‘on them’!

I’m neither vegan nor vegetarain so it was interesting to read about your challenges eating out.


allijag August 12, 2009 at 5:01 pm

Sorry that waiter was so terrible (seriously – that is so rude!) and that your food wasn’t so hot. But hey – it’s all about the company you keep, rigth? :)


Richard August 12, 2009 at 5:23 pm

One way of dealing with the “rude waiter issue” is to immediately (at the time of the incident) ask to speak to the manager, and then request that another waiter be assigned to your table. You don’t even have to fully explain “why”, other than to say that you found certain comments “inappropriate”. The waiter’s behavior was inappropriate, and obviously made you uncomfortable. It would also help management to know why patrons didn’t have an enjoyable time. BTW, happy birthday to Eric.


hmmm August 12, 2009 at 6:02 pm

Well, to play devil’s advocate…he probably didn’t realize what he was saying could be seen as annoying/grating. He was probably trying to make conversation and didn’t think about what he said. Its kind of like telling people you are a marathoner…you get all sorts of “why do you do that? i only run if i am being chased!” comments. I’d just roll my eyes at the guy. Doesn’t excuse him being dense, but doesn’t seem complain worthy either.

And as someone who has worked in the food industry for years, always beware of a “surprise” from the chef, no matter where you are or who they are. Chefs often get creative which is fine…but its not necessarily going to be what you want. Always ask how things are prepared and be specific. It may seem annoying, but when you go out…its best to be prepared. As an example, I don’t eat dairy so I ALWAYS check to make sure things don’t have dairy where I won’t expect it. And with vegetables, butter is often used when cooking. When they can’t use butter, they often salt or oil to compensate, particularly if preparing en masse.


Georgia August 12, 2009 at 6:14 pm

We went there for my friend’s wedding in St. Catharine’s the other day (we went there for the shower). It was pricey BUT the portobello burger was realllly good. i was impressed. Sorry for the bad experience.


Christina August 12, 2009 at 7:44 pm

Aww I’m so sorry your night was a flop. The nerve of that waiter! That makes me so angry – you should have complained! Who is he to judge, especially when he doesn’t know what he’s talking about!


Julia Kalish August 12, 2009 at 8:50 pm

Hi Angela – What a horrible waiter! NOBODY should have to explain or defend why they are vegan. So I’m thinking about what I will say if I’m ever in that situation – here’s a rough draft: “Thank you for your concern. I’m not familiar with any scientific evidence that vegan diets are bad for you, but I can say that I feel strong and healthy eating a vegan diet. I also feel really good that I’m not contributing to the needless slaughter and suffering of millions of animals each year.” What do you think ;)


Mandy Unruh August 13, 2009 at 12:47 am

Oh girl, I could not agree with you more! We have had many a disappointing birthday, anniversary, celebration, etc. dinner. We feel bad for not trying more restaurants and then when we do, we feel punished! So much bad food out there. And because I love to cook, it just seems pointless…you were a good sport!



Marika August 13, 2009 at 6:00 am

Aw, that’s terrible! I know how you feel– I just wrote on my blog about the negative restaurant experience we had for my mother’s birthday dinner…


anne August 14, 2009 at 3:42 am

Wow, I can’t believe how RUDE (and wrong!) that waiter is.


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